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Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Drawing from more than 10 years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, Dr. Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling, behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. She shares what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, reproductive specialists, human-resources executives, and economists know about the unique power of our 20s and how they change our lives. The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant listen that shows us why our 20s do matter. Our 20s are a time when the things we do - and the things we don't do - will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette

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Essential reading for every 20 something

Meg Jay is the shot of adrenaline that every struggling 20 something needs. She doesn't push, or lecture but rather presents sobering facts and nudges helpfully.

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Worth the time

This was an easy and engaging listen with relatable stories. I’ve had this on my wishlist for tears and at 25, I felt it was about time I gave it ago and it feels like a good time (wouldn’t have benefited as much if I read it as a student but it’s good for new graduates and those who are at the start of their careers like myself).

I felt some parts were repetitive and the main message was that 20s are not to be wasted. Many of the stories were about people who are wasting their lives, which is not really my case but I still found many pieces of wisdom that have made this book worth it. I’m planning to recommend this book to some of my friends who I hope will learn something from it.

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Excellent - Time Well Spent

What made the experience of listening to The Defining Decade the most enjoyable?

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My twenty two year old daughter just graduated from college and will be moving out of state. My wife listened to the audio version and bought two hard cover copies, one for our daughter and one for our twenty something son who lives in another city. It must have struck a chord as these young adults couldn't put it down, and asked if Meg Jay had any other books (not yet).

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Buy it now

This was on my list for a couple years and I’m kicking myself for waiting so long to read/listen to it. Easy to listen to, relatable stories, amazing points to take with you through life.

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Great book, would recommend to every 20-something

Great book. would recommend to every 20-something I know. Gives so much credible insight, gained from many years as a psychotherapist so you know it's all backed by science and studies. Almost always uses scholarly studies as her body of evidence, explained anecdotally.
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Life changing.

Every 20-something should give a shot to this book. I'm 24, and extremely happy to have heard it. It is actionable life advice backed up by research.

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So happy this book was recommended to me.

What a great collection of stories and much needed blunt education on navigating and getting through this decade! As a 24 year old willow in the wind I really needed Meg to tell me about myself, she did not disappoint.

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The best gift I got for graduating college.

It gave me the advice and motivation I needed to figure out and plan who I wanted to move forward and achieve my dreams.

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Everyone Should Read

Every parent of a 20 something and every 20 something should read/listen to this book. What great insight and advice this book shares.

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excellent book

this is an excellent book about being intentional about your life and not wasting time

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