The Dead Moms Club

A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses

By: Kate Spencer

Narrated by: Kate Spencer

Kate Spencer lost her mom to cancer when she was 27. In The Dead Moms Club, she walks readers through her experience of stumbling through grief and loss, and helps them to get through it, too. This isn't a weepy, sentimental story, but rather a frank, up-front look at what it means to go through gruesome grief and come out on the other side.

An empathetic read, The Dead Moms Club covers how losing her mother changed nearly everything in her life: both men and women readers who have lost parents or experienced grief of this magnitude will be comforted and consoled. Spencer even concludes each chapter with a cheeky but useful tip for readers (like the "It's None of Your Business Card" to copy and hand out to nosy strangers asking about your passed loved one).

Critic reviews

"Kate Spencer is the BFF I wish I had when my mother died. I had dear friends, mind you. Just not the kind who'd also been rocked by grief and could make me laugh-until-I-cried about it. Well done!"—Allison Gilbert, author of Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive, Parentless Parents: How the Loss of Our Mothers and Fathers Impacts the Way We Raise Our Children, and Always Too Soon: Voices of Support for Those Who Have Lost Both Parents

"The most tragic things are also the ones we most need to laugh about. Thankfully Kate Spencer is here to lead us to those laughs with grace and charm."—Chris Gethard, author of A Bad Idea I'm About to Do

"This is the perfect 'how to' book for the unimaginable, and Kate is the dearest friend you could want beside you the whole way. She will become your new cheerleader."—Casey Wilson

"This book destroyed me. But not in a 'It made me so depressed!' kind of way. It destroyed me because it was just so deeply relatable. It made me remember my own mother, and made me wish I had met Kate's. I spent the entire book not only laughing and crying, but just so pissed Kate's mom couldn't read it herself. She would be so proud. It's incredible."—Chris Kelly

"Although her memoir is a raw and moving account of a daughter's loss, Spencer's comedic wit prevails."—Booklist

"Improbably-and irresistibly-funny"—People

"Heartbreaking and hilarious."—BUST.com

LOVE IT

I've read the book and absolutely love it! To listen to Kate herself read it was beyond amazing. I am unfortunately part of the club and I'd like to thank you Kate for sharing your story which I can relate in so many ways.

Amazing book

My mom passed July 24th 2018 and this book was very relatable to me... It was great to be able to connect with someone's experience.

Would be 5 stars but really fowl language

In the audiobook preview it stops just before she tells you it’s going to have fowl language. Also have a good bit of reference to the paranormal. If you are not into those things it’s probably better to get the book in writing so you can look over of skip past them. It’s quite jarring to listen to and hard to know how far to skip ahead. Other than that it’s incredibly relatable especially if your mom died of Cancer. It will help you cry.

Wow

I lost my mom in April 2020 to lung cancer which spread to her liver and I felt like this was written for me. I related to everything she wrote. I would highly recommend this.

Cry, Laugh, Repeat

Thank you for this book. I miss her everyday. Two years gone and I still have her number in my phone. I needed to read this book. To have someone acknowledge and understand my loss was the greatest gift. I fully recommend this to all the orphaned mommy's girls and boys. I'm 48 and I still feel lost without her.