This week’s conversation is all about rewriting outdated scripts and reclaiming intimacy with confidence, connection, and joy. Lauren Elise Rogers—certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach—shares her empowering approach to navigating desire, healing from harmful narratives, and reigniting long-term relationships.

With warmth and clarity, Lauren unpacks how to release the scripts that no longer serve, nurture your own sense of pleasure, and bring curiosity back into love. This is a reminder that nothing is broken—you have the right and the power to create intimacy that truly feels like yours.

1. You’re not broken—just running an old script.
   
   

2. Pleasure is your birthright, not a bonus.
   
   

3. Curiosity keeps love alive.
   
   

1. Rewriting Sexual Scripts (04:09)

“It’s okay to look at them and go, hey, is this really the script I still want to follow? Or do I want to do a rewrite?”

Lauren Racehel

Outdated beliefs about bodies, sex, and roles often sneak in early in life and quietly shape choices. Recognizing them as “scripts” allows you to decide if they still fit—or if it’s time for a rewrite. This creates freedom to align intimacy with who you really are today.

2. Healing the Sexual Garden (13:35)

“Some beliefs feel like dandelions we can pull, but some are like soil blight. And yet, a good farmer knows soil blight can be healed.”

Lauren Racehel

Deeply rooted shame and negative beliefs can feel permanent, but healing is possible. Just like tending a garden, cultivating intimacy takes patience, sunlight, and nourishment. Seeing it this way replaces shame with compassion and invites long-term healing.

3. Bringing Curiosity Back to Long-Term Love (32:03)

“So many of us have lost curiosity in our long-term partnerships. And there is nothing wrong with wanting surprise, anticipation, or a bit of play.”

Lauren Racehel

Long-term safety doesn’t have to mean boredom. By discovering personal erotic themes and sprinkling them back into relationships, intimacy can feel exciting again. Curiosity and play are not only allowed—they’re essential ingredients for keeping desire alive.

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Guest: Elliott Connie — psychotherapist, best-selling author, and global leader in Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT).

In this episode, Elliott breaks down how asking the right questions can create powerful shifts in healing, relationships, and life direction. With over 20 years of experience, he shows why focusing on strengths and desired outcomes leads to transformation faster than traditional models of therapy.

1. The questions you ask shape your future.

2. Change begins by focusing on outcomes, not problems.

3. Lasting relationships thrive on reciprocity, not blame.
   
   

1. The Power of Empowering Questions (04:06 – 08:19)
Instead of asking “Why are you here?” SFBT starts with “What are your best hopes from being here?” This reframes therapy from problem-focused to solution-oriented.

“A conversation about difference will lead towards differences. A conversation about problems will lead towards more problems.”

2. The Three Life-Changing Questions (12:58 – 15:08)
Elliott introduces three essential questions to break free from stuck patterns:

• Who am I really?

• What do I want?

• Who do I need to become to achieve it?
  Writing these down sparks clarity and subconscious action toward change.
  
  

“You can’t stay the same and expect things around you to get different.”

3. Relationships and Reciprocity (24:22 – 28:51)
The biggest mistake couples make is waiting for their partner to change first. Elliott emphasizes showing up differently yourself and trusting reciprocity to build momentum.

“Anytime you want something from your partner, that’s actually an indicator you’re not doing that for them.”

✨ Notable Closing Insight:
When trapped in the “someday” mindset, ask:

“Suppose your partner never changes, how would you notice yourself being your very best even then?”

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Aha! Moments Podcast with Elliott Connie

In this episode of Life Check Yourself, Marni Battista interviews Steven Miyao, an executive coach and entrepreneur, about navigating midlife career changes and personal reinvention. They discuss the challenges faced by midlife professionals, the importance of aligning careers with personal values, and practical strategies for overcoming fear and taking action. Steven shares insights from his coaching practice, including the eulogy exercise to reflect on one's values and the significance of experimentation in making life changes. The conversation emphasizes the need for intentional living and the journey of self-discovery in midlife.

Takeaways

Midlife professionals often feel the need for a career change.

Grinding it out is not the solution; intentional living is key.

Many people are stuck in a hamster wheel of work demands.

Reinvention can be an opportunity to align with personal values.

Shifting mindsets can lead to better job performance.

Fear of failure, shame, and success can paralyze decision-making.

The eulogy exercise helps clarify what truly matters in life.

Experimentation is crucial for discovering new paths.

Letting go of past identities can facilitate change.

The journey of self-discovery is as important as the destination.

• The Midlife Hamster Wheel (02:56–04:01)
  Many Gen X professionals built their careers by grinding, but never paused to live intentionally. Stopping to question whether the treadmill is serving you opens the door to reinvention
  Steven Miyao
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  “We are not stopping to question the hamster wheel. Is it true reinvention? It doesn’t have to be, but it can be.”
  
  
  

• Letting Go of Proving Energy (07:59–10:19)
  Old patterns of overwork often stem from childhood experiences of needing to prove worth. Identifying and releasing these habits creates space for a new identity and healthier success
  
  “Once you’ve identified this new self, you can rewire your brain to believe you actually are that person.”
  
  
  

• Eulogy Values vs. Resume Values (20:41–22:27)
  True fulfillment comes when you prioritize the legacy you want to leave over titles, money, or status. The “eulogy exercise” helps clarify what really matters and guides midlife pivots
  
  “The second part of your life is all about eulogy values—what do you want to be remembered for?”
  
  

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