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"Text Me has the thrills and laughs of a romantic comedy, but with an inverted message: 'There just isn't only one love story in our lives,' Schaefer writes. If you're lucky, friends will be the protagonists in these multiple love stories. It's high time that we start seeing it that way." (NPR)

2018's Great Reads

A personal and sociological examination - and ultimately a celebration - of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society

For too long, women have been told that we are terrible at being friends, that we can't help being cruel or competitive, or that we inevitably abandon each other for romantic partners. But we are rejecting those stereotypes and reclaiming the power of female friendship.   

In Text Me When You Get Home, journalist Kayleen Schaefer interviews more than 100 women about their BFFs, soul mates, girl gangs, and queens while tracing this cultural shift through the lens of pop culture. Our love for each other is reflected in Abbi and Ilana, Issa and Molly, #squadgoals, the acclaim of Girls Trip and Big Little Lies, and Galentine's Day. Schaefer also includes her own history of grappling with a world that told her to rely on men before she realized that her true source of support came from a strong tribe of women. Her personal narrative and celebration of her own relationships weaves throughout the evolution of female friendship on-screen, a serious look at how women have come to value one another and our relationships.  

Text Me When You Get Home is a validation that has never existed before. A thoughtful, heart-soaring, deeply reported look at how women are taking a stand for their friendships and not letting go.

©2018 Kayleen Schaefer (P)2018 Penguin Audio

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Really great until liberal political views

I really enjoyed most of this book and luckily she didn’t go off in a political direction until towards the end. It really helped me self reflect my relationships with women and it makes sense tying our current mentalities back to the social norms of the 70s and prior. I didn’t expect to have a chapter in which she discussed her anti-Trump views and how it helped bonding with her female friends while marching. It was just a complete turnoff for me being a strong supporter of our current president. I’m OK with people having their political views that differ from mine but I just didn’t expect it in this book. It’s like paying to see an entertainer and then using their platform to promote their political agenda… It’s not what entertainment is about. The fact that she assumes that most women would identify with this part of the story is also a bit insulting. I would’ve given it a 5 but I still gave it a 4. That chapter kind of deflated my enthusiasm for the book and I was hoping for more interesting ending as well.

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Not what I was hoping for

only so many times you can compare modern women to the characters from 80's sitcoms. I was hoping this would have more substance. we read this for a bookclub because we all tend to say this to each other when we leave a gathering. it was disappointing. lacing statistics and solid research, it felt based on characters from tv shows the author enjoyed. a letdown.

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really long BuzzFeed article

it's a lot of quoting of TV shows, books and articles. all of which could have probably been one chapter.

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Good message

Wanted to really gush and enjoy this book, it seemed very repetitive and was more like a report of women in the media through the past century more than an intimate tale of female friendship, my book club enjoyed it none the less.

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Relatable

From page one I found myself relating to this book. It speaks of relationships of every sort and I was able to connect with each example. After finishing the book, I purchased hard copies to give to my family and friends to let them know how special they were to me.

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Girlfriends

Well done!! Great read for women of all ages.

Insights to the definition of best girlfriends.

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You'll Call your Besties ASAP!

What did you love best about Text Me When You Get Home?

While the history and evolution of female friendships as they are presented in the media is definitely intriguing, what I loved most about this book was the constant reminder of how valuable our friendships are. I enjoyed the way the author intertwined her own friendships with pop culture references and famous friendships.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

This book will make you want to call up your best friends and tell them how much you love them!

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One thing that did sort of irk me about this book was the idea the author seemed to perpetuate that wanting to be married or have a romantic relationship is somehow forsaking your friendships. As a proud feminist, I understand the idea that women are taught romance is above all else, but the author allows the pendulum to swing too far in the opposite direction.

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An important book for women of all age

Loved this fresh look at friendships between women. Great mix of modern examples and past examples of the evolution of friendships and why it is so important in our lives.

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She could have done much more with this

Though I appreciate book and movie references, the entire book was references. Female friendships are amazing, and I was hoping for more of a story than what was presented. I feel that the excessive references we're not necessary, and acted as a distraction rather than a relevant or necessary part.

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Loved it!

After listening to this book I feel the need to write, text, call, and meet with all my friends one on one to express how much I love them.