The most common question I receive from my readers and listeners is "What are the best phrases for [insert issue] when tapping?"

The reality is there are no magic phrases, only ones that are useful or not.

At the same time, there is something that is often overlooked when tapping. For tapping to be the most effective it is less about the words you use and more about your focus.

In this week's podcast I explore how we can tune in to issues in a way that will lead to optimal results and how you can easily incorporate this in your tapping.

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One of the reasons that I love the tapping community is because it is filled with so many thoughtful and caring people. These are people who want to make the world a better place and often are willing to go above and beyond to care for others.

At the same time, this can also be problematic because constantly taking care of everyone else means we have a tendency to put ourselves last.

AND in some cases it is worse than putting ourselves last. Sometimes we completely forget our own needs and aren't doing anything at all to take care of ourselves.

In the last few weeks I have come to an interesting revelation as to why this happens. This episode of the podcast explores this issue and what we can do about it.

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It is odd to think about the word toxic being associated with kindness, but I have noticed a growing conversation around the idea of "toxic kindness".

Toxic kindness can be described as encouragement in a difficult time that actually makes you feel worse.

For example, when you are having an emotionally challenging time and people tell you "Don't worry! Everything is going to work out just fine." On one level that looks as if it is encouraging. At the same time it can also feel like your emotions are being dismissed.

I'm sure that the intention behind this sort of encouragement is good, but when we are in the middle of something hard, it doesn't feel helpful. Instead it can feel like our friends lack empathy OR that they don't think our feelings are valid.

Rather than the term toxic kindness, I like to call this kindhearted incompetence.

Here is a simple tap-along to help you when it feels like people aren't understanding your emotions or situation.

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