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In this episode, JJ sits down with returning guest Lori Shelley, a coach who helps women navigate the emotional and practical aftermath of betrayal. Lori shares her background—from 12 years in financial planning (including training leadership), to 13 years at home raising her kids, to 13 years in HR—and how her own life experience led her to coaching women in midlife who are rebuilding after major relationship disruption.

Lori opens up about discovering her husband's long-term deception through what's often called "drip disclosure"—learning the truth in pieces over time—and how that process created intense nervous-system dysregulation: depression, short temper, feeling worse as she approached home, and eventually rage that didn't match the partial information she had. She explains how a formal therapeutic disclosure helped bring alignment between what she felt and what was actually happening—creating clarity, validation, and a turning point for healing.

Together, JJ and Lori discuss why the right support matters. Lori describes the difference between approaches that frame partners as "co-addicts" versus betrayal trauma frameworks that recognize the impact of deception on safety, intuition, and identity. She shares how 12-step style groups (including COSA) can provide a safe starting place—especially when the group's structure and energy support growth instead of staying stuck in the story.

Lori also explains how she works with women today through groups and individual coaching, including:

• A group for women navigating separation/divorce after betrayal, and

• A deeper healing experience called The Spiral Path, a 6-month program exploring:

  1. what you want to leave behind,

  2. what you want to acknowledge, and

  3. what you want to walk away with.

JJ highlights Lori's unique zone of genius: blending emotional healing + financial and career support for women facing divorce—helping clients move from "I'm not okay" to regulated, grounded, and clear about what they will and won't accept moving forward. Lori shares one of her favorite group check-ins: noticing glimmers (small signs of hope) and naming what you're beating yourself up about—so you can begin to come back to yourself.

Connect with Lori:
Website: LoriShelleyCoaching.com (Book a free 30-minute consultation)
Facebook: Lori Shelley Coaching

In this solo episode, JJ breaks down how to move through the powerful momentum of the Fire Horse year without burnout by focusing on just three aligned priorities. Rather than getting swept up in urgency, overcommitment, or scattered action, she shares how to use this high-energy cycle for sustainable expansion through identity, intentional creation, and body-led balance. This conversation is your reminder that success this year comes from congruence, not doing more. If you're ready for guided support, join JJ's free 14-Day Manifestation Challenge starting April 1st at JJFlizanes.com/14day, and download her Metabolic Makeover program (a $500 value) completely free at JJFlizanes.com/mm using the code JJFREE.

In this episode, JJ Flizanes welcomes Erin Hines, a Human Design business coach (and repeat guest from West Coast Women Rising), to kick off a new series-style conversation on Human Design—what it is, why it's gaining traction, and how it can help you better understand your energy, decision-making, and natural way of operating in life and work.

What You'll Learn

• What Human Design is and where it came from (a modern system developed in the late 1980s)
• How Human Design blends ancient and modern systems (astrology, I Ching, chakras + physics/biology concepts)
• The "science of differentiation": why your uniqueness matters and how it supports more ease in life
• The 5 Human Design types and what each one needs to manage energy well:
• • Generators & Manifesting Generators: consistent energy when doing what lights you up; built to respond
  • Projectors: here to guide; thrive by waiting for invitations and honoring rest
  • Manifestors: here to initiate; thrive by informing and allowing cycles of burst/rest
  • Reflectors: sensitive mirrors of environments; thrive with downtime and supportive spaces
• How type can reduce shame and friction (e.g., why open-ended questions can feel hard for "response-based" types)
• The basics of reading a Human Design chart: Type, Centers (defined vs open), and deeper layers like gates/channels

Mentioned in the Episode

• Erin's free Human Design chart option (available many places; Erin's includes helpful click-for-explanations)
• Erin's "Intro to Human Design" custom report for deeper insight
• Erin's podcast: Rebel to Rise: Where Business Meets Human Design (includes business strategy + HD education)

Connect with Erin Hines

Erin's website: DarnGoodBusinessCoach.com
Find Erin on: LinkedIn
Listen to: Rebel to Rise: Where Business Meets Human Design