Sissy

A Coming-of-Gender Story

De: Jacob Tobia

Narrado por: Jacob Tobia

The National Best Seller

"Transformative...If Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling, Sissy succeeds." (New York Times Book Review)

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.

"A beautiful book...honest and funny." (Trevor Noah, The Daily Show)

"Sensational." (Tyler Oakley)

"Jacob Tobia is a force." (Good Morning America)

"A trans Nora Ephron...both honest and didactic." (OUT Magazine)

"A rallying cry for anyone who's ever felt like they don't belong." (Woman's Day)

As a young child in North Carolina, Jacob Tobia wasn't the wrong gender, they just had too much of the stuff. Barbies? Yes. Playing with bugs? Absolutely. Getting muddy? Please. Princess dresses? You betcha. Jacob wanted it all, but because they were "a boy", they were told they could only have the masculine half. Acting feminine labelled them "a sissy" and brought social isolation.

It took Jacob years to discover that being "a sissy" isn't something to be ashamed of. It's a source of pride. Following Jacob through bullying and beauty contests, from Duke University to the United Nations to the podiums of the Methodist church - not to mention the parlors of the White House - this unforgettable memoir contains multitudes. A deeply personal story of trauma and healing, a powerful reflection on gender and self-acceptance, and a hilarious guidebook for wearing tacky clip-on earrings in today's world, Sissy guarantees you'll never think about gender - both other people's and your own - the same way again.

©2019 Jacob Tobia (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

“[Tobia] combines incisive wit and undeniable intelligence to invite readers into their personal journey as a gender-nonconforming young person in North Carolina.... It is in Tobia’s often self-deprecating humor that Sissy is most transformative, and where it most departs from other trans memoirs. The seriousness of the topic never feels glossed over, which allows for an organic and seamless journey from tears on one page to laughing aloud on the next. If Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling, Sissy succeeds.” (New York Times Book Review)

“With bare honesty, irreverent humor, and refreshing vulnerability, this memoir is a rallying cry for anyone who's ever felt like they don't belong.” (Woman’s Day)

"When the political reality facing this country seems dark, we need shinier, sparklier thinkers in the public eye. With a signature style matched only by their wit, Jacob fits that bill perfectly." (Alan Cumming)

Grammy Bound!!

This audiobook is mind-blowing. I couldn’t stop listening. Someone nominate Jacob for a Grammy award right now!

Enlightening and inspiring

Jacob does an incredible job in writing and performing their story; making it both comical and refreshingly candid. The vivid imagery and their emotional transparency will have any empathetic listener celebrating Jacob's victories and deeply saddened by the injustices as the story unfolds. (Perhaps listening to this book while working, as I did, is not the best approach.)

Jacob, being who they are, can be obnoxiously abrasive and over the top throughout the process of discovering who they are and how to present themselves to the world. They are very clear about doing so unapologetically.

If you are open to the message, this book will challenge your preconceptions, redefining the way you see yourself and the world around you. Sissy is not only for the LGBTQ+ community either. In fact, cisgender people stand to benefit most of all as Jacob's story paints a unique perspective that I had certainly never considered.

This is a beautiful story as told by a beautiful soul. I hope you find it as enjoyable as I did.

A powerful young voice with a wonderful message.

Narrated by the writer, this memoir delivers a strong message of hope to those who struggle to realize their true power. The power that comes with accepting yourself just the way you are while being strong enough to recognize your endless need for growth. Jacob has taught me that being different is beautiful and being unapologetically different is what brings change about. Jacob, his family and friends are a reminder to us all that love, patience and acceptance are what truly make a life worth living.

Loved it

Funny, lots of heart. Courageous and true. Loved it. As a Boomer Mom in Raleigh NC, with now grown kids this act age, I enjoyed every minute! Go Jacob!

Funny enlightening and inspiring

This book was read by the author and to performance was magnificent I recommend for everyone to at least give this book a chance No matter what side of the issue you stand on you will admire Jacob's bravery intelligence and courageous spirit

Wonderful book

So illuminating and helpful. I developed such respect for the author. Such insight about 1 person’s journey in the gay / trans community.

A sparkling introduction to gender theory

I appreciate that Jacob Tobia has shared their story in such an accessible way that I (who would like to learn more about gender theory but don’t know where to begin) could pop in my headphones and go for a long walk with them - literally stopping midstep to wipe a tear or laugh out loud - and listen and learn and grow in empathy through their writing. The story feels raw, or just barely processed - a lot of stories about lipstick, heels, and bared underwear, and lengthy self-quotations from their own contemporaneous reactions to difficult scenarios. The analogies are plentiful, original, and sometimes stretched a bit too thin. I look forward to reading Jacob’s memoir at the end of their long life, reflecting on decades more of self-discovery and (hopefully) further developments towards love and acceptance by our society. P.S. I lived in the Triangle and attended a somewhat closed-minded church in Cary - really wishing I had found Jacob’s church family instead!

So Arrogant.

I had to stop listening because I got tired of hearing how "precocious" and exceptional they are.

EXCELLENT ENBY MEMOIR

I loved getting the opportunity to hear Jacob’s “coming of gender” story. As a non-binary, gender nonconforming person myself, I try to get my hands on all the Enby material I possibly can. It can be so difficult to articulate the specific damages caused by the gender binary, especially if you don’t fully identify with the associations that come with the sex you were assigned at birth. I found myself crying, laughing, and cackling at different points throughout their narrative and totally recommend it to anyone looking to deepen their understanding of one of the infinite possibilities of the non-binary experience.

An absolute must read and listen!

Such a lovely, candid and thoughtful "her-story"! Jacob's journey and bravery is honest, charming, whitty and so much fun! Beautifully written and perfomed by the she-roic author!