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Sissy

A Coming-of-Gender Story
Narrated by: Jacob Tobia
Length: 11 hrs and 21 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (123 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

An Oprah.com and Time.com Best of March Pick

"Sensational." (Tyler Oakley)
"Jacob Tobia is a force." (Good Morning America)
"A necessary voice." (Time)
"Honest, funny, and poignant." (Bustle)
"A valuable dispatch from a new generation of queer activists and artists." (Washington Post)

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above. 

From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!" 

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay", "trans", "nonbinary", and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world - one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender - both other people's and your own - the same way again.

Named a Most Anticipated Book by HelloGiggles, PopSugar, SheReads, A.V. Club, Pride.com, The Daily Utah Chronicle, Read It Forward, Ms. magazine, and Eligible

©2019 Jacob Tobia (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic Reviews

Sissy bravely moves the needle forward, boldly advocating for a world where people of all genders are treated equally and with dignity. A story of audacity and courage, Sissy is not to be missed.” (Billie Jean King) 

"Across this country young boys are shamed and humiliated for expressing femininity, as well as young girls for expressing masculinity. Jacob bravely seeks to end this culture of shame.” (Monica Lewinsky) 

“Sensational. Gut-punchingly hilarious and full of heart, this is a book that’s sure to change your outlook and how you relate to others. Sissy is guaranteed to make your mascara run from happy and sad tears alike.” (Tyler Oakley) 

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Groundbreaking

A voice and story that was so badly needed, and is now finally being heard.

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Interesting

This was interesting. A new way to think about gender labels. This was very enlightening. A courageous proponent for the equality of all genders.

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Thanks Jacob

Amazing. Simply amazing. Your words are fuel for my soul and driving my transition. Sorry I may borrow some to come out to my family.

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fabulous!

I loved it. aresonant, Touching, and Brilliant! Thank you for this well-thought-out, life experience book! Thanks for opening up to yourself and to the readers!

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Well Done Jacob

Enjoyed every minute of this book and performance. Jacob told us who and how people hurt them in a heartfelt and sometimes funny story. Yet, I could feel Jacob's pain during the reading of this story, the invariable reliving of their story. I just wish Jacob could tell us the 'why'...

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Eye opening

This book was well written insightful and beautiful narrated. I aploud Jacob for his courage and ability to love his true self.

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Best learning ever.

I learned so much from Jacob. about life. gender. emotion. stories and story telling. I am so grateful Jacob shared his story (so far!).

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This Cis Loves Sissy

This book should be mandatory reading for all parents with young children navigating this modern world. Jacob isn’t the only person who has had to figure out where they fit, but the experience that this person was gracious enough to share could help families and individuals in the same boat.

The more people talk about and celebrate what makes each individual person in the world unique, the more comfortable each person will be to live the life that they were meant to out loud.

Thank you Jacob!

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Thank you, Jacob Tobia!

Beautifully written and narrated, Jacob takes you through his journey. Sometimes through tears- through giggles and laughter, through life - wild, raw, and vulnerable- struggling to build an armor while protecting what's underneath. Something every minority can relate too. Thank you for sharing your trip ❤️

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Brilliant

Everyone should read this book - every single person alive. It should be mandatory reading for junior high or high school students.