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Publisher's Summary

New York Times Editors' Choice

In this poignant memoir of personal transformation, Jill Soloway takes us on a patriarchy-toppling emotional and professional journey. When Jill’s parent came out as transgender, Jill pushed through the male-dominated landscape of Hollywood to create the groundbreaking and award-winning Amazon TV series Transparent. Exploring identity, love, sexuality, and the blurring of boundaries through the dynamics of a complicated and profoundly resonant American family, Transparent gave birth to a new cultural consciousness. While working on the show and exploding mainstream ideas about gender, Jill began to erase the lines on their own map, finding their voice as a director, show creator, and activist. 

She Wants It: Desire, Power, and Toppling the Patriarchy moves with urgent rhythms, wild candor, and razor-edged humor to chart Jill’s evolution from straight, married mother of two to identifying as queer and nonbinary. This intense and revelatory metamorphosis challenges the status quo and reflects the shifting power dynamics that continue to shape our collective worldview. With unbridled insight that offers a rare front seat to the inner workings of the #metoo movement and its aftermath, Jill captures the zeitgeist of a generation with thoughtful and revolutionary ideas about gender, inclusion, desire, and consent.

©2018 Jill Soloway (P)2018 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

“A funny and brutally honest book about what it means to be a woman and what it takes to be a creator, She Wants It is deeply personal but always universal in its unapologetic recounting of a life lived and raw talent shared.” (Amy Poehler)

“Most writers hide in memoirs, sharing little real stories. With generous openhearted honesty, courage and compassion, Soloway invites us to hear true stories. They share the difficult painful revelations, triumphs, and failures. Listening to them, readers laugh, cry, love, and most important, learn.” (bell hooks)

“Jill Soloway is not only a stunningly talented series creator, they're an archangel, here to rid us of the patriarchy. It’s a grand mission and it’s not easy going, She Wants It is their wild-winged, soft-hearted share-all. I loved their book so much - it is about everything I’m interested in; a personal life amidst daring creative endeavors.” (Jane Campion)

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Wonderful

Real, raw, neon lights shimmering in puddles, every chapter another step forward,towards a beautiful ,living life.

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Loving Jill's Work

I loved transparent and I love dick and got pretty obsessed with Soloway's work so when their book came out I downloaded it right away. It does not disappoint and covers all of the questions I had bouncing in my mind about their personal life and work and that crossover. I am a very queer person and Jill opened my mind to trans people in ways that I haven't thought of before which was surprising. I'm grateful for the work Jill is doing and to have this book to give a look into this creation.

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Book boring, narration worse? I cannot uncheck the sta s but I would give it 0

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  • 11-13-18

Wow!

This was recommended to me by a librarian and I am stunned by Soloway’s direct, honest and sometimes hysterical recounting of her journey from a “good, little heteronormative girl to her (r)evolution personally as a binary person, prompted by the unnerving coming out by her father as trans, the creative process to develop the groundbreaking series, “Transparent”, and the ultimate loss of trust to the patriarchal transgressions of its main character. MeToo, Times Up and defining and living intersectionality all woven into this life story. Timely, moving and actionable. Thank you Jamie.

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My mind is blown.

I thought this was going to be a dishy “behind the scenes” of Transparent etc. ( and it is) but I didn’t not expect it to crack open my thinking about gender and privilege. It did.

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Excellent!

Hearing about Jill’s personal transformation was powerful and completely relatable. Thank you for this lovely book. Down with the patriarchy!

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now I get it

soloway provides a passionate personal description of the journey we are all on in our own way. hers is different than mine but not really

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