Sex Diaries

Real-life Stories of Non-Monogamy and Polyamory

De: Alyssa Shelasky, New York Magazine, Esther Perel - introduction

Intimate, captivating, never-before-seen true stories from the edge of modern sex and dating, compiled by Alyssa Shelasky, in the style of her wildly popular New York Magazine column—with an introduction from Esther Perel, renowned psychotherapist and NYT bestselling author of Mating in Captivity

Polyamory is hardly a new cultural touchstone, yet as it continues to enter the mainstream dating world, its realities often remain opaque. What does the everyday life of someone with multiple partners actually look like? How do you navigate the daily logistics and the competing schedules? How do you deal with jealousy? In this candid, groundbreaking compilation of anonymous accounts, told by real people navigating sex and dating outside the bounds of traditional monogamy, Alyssa Shelasky pulls back the curtain.

A 67-year-old woman keeps a collection of well-endowed lovers in various corners of the world; a restaurant owner is jolted back to life when she gets illicit messages from a married man; a Brooklynite plans a porn brunch for her birthday, reveling in the fact that she finally feels at ease in her body.

Some diarists are just beginning to question their relationship with monogamy, others have been polyamorous for a long-time. Some accounts are graphic and dishy, while others focus on the search for lasting connections that feel genuinely liberatory. Every single one is strikingly honest and authentic, revealing expansive tales of love, lust, longing and desire.

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“The participants’ words in Sex Diaries are completely unfiltered, uncensored, and unjudged. They show humanity in its unselfconscious rendering . . . Shelasky often says the diaries she chooses to publish are deliberately ‘quotidian.’ These dairies are exploratory, adventurous, arousing, and strikingly accessible. It turns out, in the quotidian lies the poetic.”—From the introduction by Esther Perel, New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity

“Whatever you think Sex Diaries is, rest assured it is so much more. Some entries shimmer with sex and sensuality, while others chronicle sexcapades between Costco runs and therapy sessions. This glorious never-before-published collection of diaries will delight, tantalize, console, amuse, and inspire. If you’ve ever dreamed of riding shotgun on someone else’s ride through nonmonogamy, this book will transport you there. I’m grateful Alyssa Shelasky has put together this collection—may it enlarge our understanding of sexual freedom and enhance our relationships, regardless of how we define them.”—Christie Tate, New Yor Times bestselling author of GROUP

“An absolute gift—not just for the polycurious, but for anyone interested in relationships, desire, and the raw beauty of human vulnerability.”—Molly Roden Winter, author of More

“The sex question that therapists most often hear from their clients is ‘Am I Normal?’ Sex Diaries not only answers that question with a resounding ‘YES’ but also introduces us to real people who are showing us the way—no, blazing a trail—into the new normal.”—Ian Kerner, sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First