• Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

  • Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents
  • By: Allison Bottke
  • Narrated by: Margaret Strom
  • Length: 7 hrs and 42 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (238 ratings)

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Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children

By: Allison Bottke
Narrated by: Margaret Strom
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Writing from firsthand experience, Allison Bottke identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son, in bondage - and how she overcame them. Additional real-life stories from other parents appear throughout the audio.

A tough-love guide to coping with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y. - a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.

S = STOP enabling, STOP blaming yourself, and STOP the flow of money
A = Assemble a support group
N = Nip excuses in the bud
I = Implement rules/boundaries
T = Trust your instincts
Y = Yield everything to God

©2008 Allison Gappa Bottke (P)2016 Tantor

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" Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain." (Pam Farrel, author of Men Are Like Waffles)

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Life changing!

Such and important read for ALL parents! It’s bee so valuable to us. Thank you!

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Instantly Life Changing

I absolutely loved this book. It was as if I was drinking the "water of life"! I am currently in the midst of similar situations with all three of my sons and now I have some direction. It feels good to know you're not alone and to get good sound and godly advice. This book, besides the Bible, is the best book ever written, in my opinion. The narrator was AWESOME and made and made notable inferences where needed. Amazing to listen to and I am preparing to listen again, making notes this time. I will be sharing with my friends and family. May God bless the author.

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Chapter 15!!

I gained a lot of knowledge from this book. This book is necessary!!! It helped.

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Incredible book that's right on

This book was incredibly accurate on what we as parents need to do at what ever point we are in with our adult children. So many of us have enabled our kids thinking we were helping them make it through life easier. In actuality, we stopped them from becoming responsible thought giving adults. It's very difficult to change what we have known for 20+ years. But we must. We deserve to be happy and free.

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solid Christian perspective

excellent first read and when trying to get a handle and on boundary issues with an adult child. would recommend. allows me to understand that other people are struggling with the issues similar to those that I am struggling.

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struggling mom

listened to this book over and over especially on hard days thanks definitely helped me find my joy again

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HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK!!

I bought this audible book and loved it so much that I bought the paperback book. It made me think and see things differently,

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Just the book I needed!

Yes, it is a bit religious, but so is AA. When you are down, helpless and in need of help you'll take any help out there. Hence, you turn to God. If you don't believe in God, then don't read this book.

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A book that truly helps!

If you have an adult child that is out of control, you must read this book! Thank you, Allison, for writing this for all us "enabling parents"!

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Great Resource

Being the mom of 2 "prodigal" son's. Setting Bou dEies is a book I desperately needed in my life.

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