Selfishness and Self Absorption: How to Stop It from Ruining Your Relationships

By: Ted Dawson

Narrated by: Alan Munro

Length: 1 hr and 26 mins

Publisher's summary

We all want our relationships to be successful. A great relationship is unlike anything else in life and can contribute a lot to our well-being and happiness. Sadly, many of us struggle in maintaining healthy relationships. Very often our own selfish patterns and behaviors are at the root of our inability to really reach our romantic potential.

In this book we will talk about how to overcome selfishness and realize more fulfilling relationships. We will talk about the root causes of selfish behavior so we can better understand ourselves and so better ourselves. The three main causes of self-absorption that we will look at are:

Biological: evolutionary causes, from Darwin's On the Origin of Species to Dawkins' selfish gene

Psychological: how we think. Selfish, egotistical reasoning versus principled, ethical reasoning. We'll look at Kohlberg's moral development theory and how you can use it to overcome your unconscious selfish instincts.

Social: We'll take a look at how contemporary culture puts pressure on us to behave selfishly and how we can change this and live more for others.

We will go over specific techniques and practices that you can easily adopt into your everyday life to overcome selfishness and learn how to love unselfishly and unconditionally. We'll talk about:

• How to develop mutually supportive relationships as partnerships.
• How to monitor yourself and check your selfish impulses to avoid unnecessary confrontation.
• How to learn how much space you take up and strategies for stepping up or stepping back to create more equality and fairness in relationships.
• The importance of giving without receiving.

With these tools in hand, you will be well on your way to developing more loving relationships that will allow you to achieve more and be a happier, more compassionate lover and individual.

©2015 Ted Dawson (P)2015 Ted Dawson

Eh

Needs more content. The content talked about is good but seems to have been cut off to prematurely. A good starting book

had some good tips

I'm a pretty selfish guy I'm learning. it's caused a lot of pain in my relationships. The first half of the book kind of covers a lot of stuff that I figure is obvious about the origins of selfishness. The aim for unconditional love and the levels of moral character was really good. The back half of the book has about 3-4 helpful tips on how to diminish selfishness in yourself which has helped me take action and truly work towards change. Overall a decent read and worth it, but I will be reading some more books on how to be better. overall I recommend it.

Above average

This was a good listen. Way above average

Worth your time and hearing - etc… etc..

Short but sweet

Pretty straightforward content, explanation, and recommendations but still helpful. It’s not going to “fix” you but it’s a good start

Not worth the time

there was no substance to the text. the author just talked about himself. he never really provided help or ways to change.