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Millions of people, both men and women, can become involved in relationships with manipulators, people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. These "toxic" relationships erode self-esteem and make life miserable for the victim. Whether the manipulator is a relative, a spouse or romantic partner, a boss, coworker, or subordinate, or even a trusted friend or advisor, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, best-selling author of The Disease to Please, shows you how to break this damaging cycle for good.

Who's Pulling Your Strings? will help you end a current destructive relationship, understand how it occurred, and prevent you from ever getting involved in a manipulative relationship again. Using revealing self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, Dr. Braiker empowers you to:

  • Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship
  • Spot manipulators and their typical ways of operating
  • Assess your own vulnerability to manipulation
  • Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
  • Utilize effective resistance tactics against manipulator's efforts
  • Transform yourself from a "soft" to a "hardened" target
  • Extricate yourself from manipulative relationships that do not change
  • Protect yourself from falling prey to manipulators' control in the future
  • Stop others from pulling your strings once and for all

    With insight, compassionate advice, and self-affirming strategies, Dr. Braiker helps you end any manipulative relationship and regain control of your life, starting right now.

  • ©2004 Harriet M. Braiker, Ph.D.; (P)2004 AMI

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    I highly recommend this book.

    What did you love best about Who's Pulling Your Strings??

    I have been married for almost 25 years and for almost all that time I have been controlled and abused by my husband and now … my two sons ( one adult and one almost adult).<br/>I have been depressed, suicidal, convinced that I am a biggest looser-you name it …<br/>I was listening to many books about detachment and had huge doubts that this approach works.Today for the first time I was able to “partially detach” from my husband’s abuse and belittling. It felt so good........<br/>I highly recommend this book. Just keep listening - it will help .

    26 of 28 people found this review helpful

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    Wish the book began at chapter 9

    The book is inspiring, but the first 8-9 chapters seem to be repeating the same info as to who is pulling your strings and which personality types are vulnerable. For people who are already aware of who is pulling their strings and when they feel vulnerable to it, the first 8-9 chapters can be boring, so skip and go straight to the last chapters. I feel disappointed the book didn't begin there.

    6 of 6 people found this review helpful

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    Better than the other one I read on same subject

    Where does Who's Pulling Your Strings? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    Fairly well. It was definitely helpful in SEEING how manipulators operate and how we respond.

    What was one of the most memorable moments of Who's Pulling Your Strings??

    Discovering how manipulators love people-pleasers. ;)

    15 of 17 people found this review helpful

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    Excellent Review of the Psychology of Manipulation

    This book presents the mindset and personality characteristics of manipulators - how they think and feel. From their personalities come their manipulation . Victims too have corresponding personality traits that make them vulnerable. Without boundaries, victims base their self esteem on the approval of others. The lamb is sought out by the wolf. Dr. Braiker presents the techniques that put an end to manipulation and she applies them to case histories to make them clear.

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    MIL

    Are you a people pleaser? Are you so focused on being "nice" and help people at great expense to yourself for approval? My husband and I let the MIL come stay with us.. for just "1-3 months tops". This book saved me. Really helped me prepare for some big confrontations coming up. Stop letting people manipulate you.

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    • Cypher
    • Davie, Florida
    • 09-04-16

    Great Book Everyone Should Hear!

    This book gives the perfect insight for everyone who is stugguling with being manipulated or does not know how to remove manipulation from their life.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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    Educational and Practical

    A practical and well written book. It focuses on how to recognize manipulation or when your being manipulated and how to recognize your own susceptibility to manipulation (your "buttons"). It can empower you with new strategies, behaviors, and habits to change the relationship dynamics so that you are no longer a mark or target for manipulators.

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    Loved it! A must listen.

    I really loved this book. I will listen to it again right away so I learn more and put her strategies into practice. It is definitely a good listen. I already feel empowered and have seen changes.

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    good advice.

    lessons to learn from. I liked this book, and learned from it. Great narration. Insightful.

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    great

    thank you for writing this, step by step. very through to help those who are or have been caught up in the web.

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    • 06-14-17

    perfect

    narration very clear. slightly robotic but was fine. good length of book. listening for a second time.....

    repetitive storyline but very effective in repeating the same problem and solutions in varying formats. works for me.

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    • Earl Fox
    • 05-16-16

    very insightful

    it was spot on with everything that I have seen in my own life. Great