When Love Is a Lie

Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda

By: Zari L Ballard

Narrated by: Lisa Bunting

Length: 4 hrs and 46 mins

Publisher's summary

What is the narcissism epidemic?

When our partner is a narcissist, only those who've actually experienced the madness will ever understand what we're going through. When Love Is a Lie is a straight-up, tell-all book about narcissism in relationships that skips the clinical bullshit to focus solely on the personal experience. A narrative that holds nothing back, Zari Ballard's story will educate, enlighten, and empower you to evaluate (and fully understand) the mind-boggling dysfunction in your own relationship. Compare her story to your own and watch what happens. As it has for thousands of abuse victims worldwide, When Love Is a Lie is going to resonate with you in ways that no other book about narcissism ever has.

Any relationship involving a person with a narcissistic personality disorder will inevitably take a dark turn. We stay in the relationship thinking we can fix this person or love him/her out of their bad behavior but the truth is that narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths can never be fixed - not with love, therapy, or any magic pill. Life quickly becomes a roller coaster ride from hell without a harness and with Lucifer himself at the controls. If that sounds dramatic, then you've never loved a narcissist. If that sounds familiar, then this very special book may just change your life.

When Love Is a Lie breaks down the signs of a narcissistic personality and exposes the narcissist's way of thinking.

©2013 Zari Ballard (P)2017 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

Good book

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes, I would, especially if it could be useful to her. But I would warn her about swearing.

What did you like best about this story?

I liked it being more of a personal experience book than an attempt of being scientific.

What about Lisa Bunting’s performance did you like?

Her performance was good, she has a clear, pleasant voice and is a competent narrator.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

I like the original title.

Any additional comments?

The author did a pretty good job on research about narcissistic personality disorders and outlined the most important points in a way easy for a layperson to understands. there is plenty of down to Earth advice how to get out of a pathological relationship.

My main complaint is about certain repetitiveness and excessive use of swearing. Otherwise I would have given it 5 stars.

I received this audiobook at no-cost from Audiobookworm Promotions. The gifting of this audiobook did not affect my opinion of it.

Love

Funny, smart, and I swear it's the story of my life! Thank you for sharing your journey.

Enlightening

I left my narcissistic husband 10 months ago. I endured 12+ years emotional abuse from him, not recognizing the abuse because my frame of reference since early childhood was abuse. He became physically abusive at the end, this is why I finally left him.

I have no regrets for leaving him. My life has been better ever since I left. I miss my house and my dogs, but I had to choose my life and sanity over them. We are currently in the midst of our divorce and he is fighting me at every opportunity. I'm not at all surprised by this.

Regardless, I have peace and feel so free without him. I have moved on, have an apartment and a new dog (since he won't give up my dogs, in spite of the fact that he has 4). This book clarified so much for me, and gave me a better understanding of the dynamics of my relationship with him. I agree, no contact is the best way to deal with a narcissist. I have m been NC since mid-December. I had to contact him about a bill last week, which was totally useless as he expressed his victimization. It was just another reminder to remain NC.

Review

Really great story from the heart and very relatable well done made understand every thing i’ve been going through so much more clearly . I highly recommend this book

Greatfull to have found this!

This book has been beneficial for myself and my children. I have just started NC with my children's father. I have been living a lie for what would be16 years on March 25, 2017. I am desperate to make it this time! I have tried leaving him several times throughout the years! He always weasels back in right when I have climbed out of the pain, bewilderment and financial ruin he left us in. It's amazing how cathartic I felt listening to this book! In no way am I happy other's have and are going through the exact same abuse my children and I have endured but knowing it has been very validating! I am not CRAZY or a SICK BITCH!

Is drama driving your relationship?

I sought out this book because drama is driving my relationship. What Zari describes is a full on narcissist who she knew and was enmeshed with over a decade. I can't diagnose any one but I can decide if this drama just feels never ending and put a stop to it. Zari gives useful tips on identifying a narcissist and how to go 'no contact.' Overall the performance of the reading was flawless but the work itself was a little too long in places about the craziness of the relationship- I wanted more about dealing with 'no contact' and gaining back a sense of self.

True validation

This book was spot on. It really reconfirmed my intuitions and gave me a new jolt of reality.

If you feel you’re dealing with a Narcissist

This has opened my eyes and created such validation for my feelings, and all of the things I’ve been questioning for years. It even made me see my behavior and how I’ve changed to survive living with a Narcissist... It’s a must have

I needed this. for my healing and confirmation. ..

this is what I needed for confirmation. 8 years of suffering. in ready to heal

Greatness

Everything Zari wrote about her experience with the N. Was almost 200% spot on. Amazing book. Love it!