Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder

The Six Stages of Healing

By: Dennis C. Ortman PhD

Narrated by: Paul Brion

Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins

Publisher's summary

The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to:

• Work through conflicting emotions
• Understand yourself and your partner
• Make important life decisions

Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love again.

©2009 Dennis Ortman (P)2017 Tantor

Validates betrayed emotional storm & gives coping skills

Validates the betrayed persons emotional storm & cycles while giving coping skills & stages. Very validating. Very useful information. Helpful & calming. Highly recommend. Even tho it doesn't go into Financial Infidelity, GA or Gam-Anon, I found it helpful for my circumstances with Financial Infidelity as the GamAnon spouse of a CG in GA.

great book, helped on multiple fronts

Helped me reflect on myself as a man, wife the wife that had the affair. Also, to identify faults of myself a the child of alcoholic parents. Buy a hard copy to reflect on as well.

A Must Read!

Narration was excellent; I wept & laughed; highly recommend to everyone! Thank you for this

Very very helpful !

I thought I was going crazy! But after starting reading this book, everything made sense. I am still on the recovery process, but it has been easier.

special

there are many statements here that are required to hear to get though your journey

Start at Chapter 7

Very helpful. Slow start if you've already read other books about the trail and in Fidelity heriot the meat of what you need I believe starts at chapter 7 and it's very very insightful afterwards. Lots of exercises and practical approaches to help shape your perception.

Systematic, Simple & Practical

Much of my time is devoted to counseling individuals recovering from affairs. Ottoman does a good job laying out a systematic understanding of the issues they face and giving practical guidance to counselors or individuals.

Life Changing!

Very helpful during this trying time. While, I am a single person, infidelity is indiscriminate and certainly impacted my life recently. Thanks for writing this book. It will definitely help me moving forward.

Good food for thought.

Some religious references but not specific to any one religion. Helped with the process and reflection on myself. Also so good ways to ease my emotions.

This Book Was My Saving Grace

Nearly 4 months in and it still hurts and I'm angry a lot. This book has allowed me to recognize this is normal and to have lots of grace with myself. This book has broken down so many feelings I'm experiencing and ones I wasn't even aware of. There were moments I would be bawling my eyes out while listening, but it felt like crying yourself out to a friend. I never felt blamed. I never felt judged. I felt heard. I'm still on the path towards forgiveness and healing but I feel like this book has helped me understand what that path will be like in a realistic manner so that I don't keep beating myself up for not getting to the end goal fast enough.