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The Upside of Your Dark Side Audiobook

The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self - Not Just Your "Good" Self - Drives Success and Fulfillment

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Publisher's Summary

In The Upside of Your Dark Side, two pioneering researchers in the field of psychology show that while mindfulness, kindness, and positivity can take us far, they cannot take us all the way. Sometimes, they can even hold us back. Emotions like anger, anxiety, or doubt might be uncomfortable, but it turns out that they are also incredibly useful.

For instance:

  • Anger fuels creativity
  • Guilt sparks improvement
  • Self-doubt enhances performance
  • Selfishness increases courage
  • Mindlessness leads to better decisions

The key lies in what the authors call "emotional agility," the ability to access our full range of emotions - not just the "good" ones - in order to respond most effectively to whatever situation we might encounter. Drawing on years of scientific research and a wide array of real-life examples including sports, the military, parenting, education, romance, business, and more, The Upside of Your Dark Side is a refreshing reality check that shows us how we can truly maximize our potential.

©2014 Todd B. Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved. Recorded by arrangement with Hudson Street Press, a member of Penguin Group (USA) LLC, a Penguin Random House Company

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    Brian 02-06-17
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    "Comfort is killing us"

    Interesting listen, well read. I totally agree with the 'Whole Person' the authors assert. The discussion on Narcissism was both surprising and delightful. What captured me immediately, and I believe deserves further exploration--maybe even another book--was the topic of how comfort has totally influenced our culture. Defines our culture is probably more accurate, and the unintended consequences of heated seats, and perfectly designed coffee holders.
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    28 of 28 people found this review helpful
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    alejandra Merida, Mexico 02-09-17
    alejandra Merida, Mexico 02-09-17
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    "food for thought"

    This book teaches to understand myself and others from a holistic point of view. It allowed me to see myself as a whole with positive and negative emotions; but most of all, it shows how to use these emotions so I can be a better person.

    14 of 14 people found this review helpful
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    Melissa Parolin 09-22-16
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    "good"

    narration was good, interesting prespective; not sure I'd re-listen though. sometimes struggles to pay attention & would zone out while listening to this one...

    15 of 15 people found this review helpful
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    Philip Ann Arbor, MI, United States 07-06-16
    Philip Ann Arbor, MI, United States 07-06-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Some interesting concepts, annoying narration"

    I was only able to stop getting annoyed by the narration after I sped up the recording by 1.25 times. Else, the fake interested narrator would leave you disgusted with the book.
    The topics and transitions are not well organized. But there are some interesting concepts every now and then.

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    Rose 05-29-15
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    "must read!!"

    Over all we must learn to embrace our dark side because it is necessary to maneuver through today's society. This book points out why we get more stuff done when we're upset.

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    rkrisel 05-05-17
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    "Just ok"

    Not sure why but this book just didnt grab or inspire me much. Asssertions are backed up by solid research, but I think they went a little too deep into research aspects at the expense of readability.

    Anyway, the ideas were good, but not inspiring - I honestly only remember the gist which is negative emotions can sometimes be helpful.

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    Evan Philadelphia 07-07-17
    Evan Philadelphia 07-07-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Much Better Than I Expected!"

    One of the things the author talks about is on having agility: social agility (being able to handle social situations as they come), mental agility, and emotional agility (being able to handle negative and positive emotions as they come).

    He also talks a lot about something called "comfort addiction" and why this is bad. The more materialistic items we have the less happy we are. There is no feeling of achievement or accomplishment when getting something we want with little to no required effort.

    According to the author's, we should spend 33% of our time facing adversity and dealing with and endure pain. Overall he talks about having willpower and why it's important to do the things you don't like to do.

    He gives some great tips on how to do that but you'll have to read the book to find that out yourself. There's a lot more to it than that and I highly recommend you check it out.

    Hope this helped. Happy Reading and Cheers!

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    A. Haase Denver, CO United States 06-08-16
    A. Haase Denver, CO United States 06-08-16 Member Since 2017
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    "freakonomics fans would like this"

    A review of research on and reasons for emotions and motivations that are not entirely positive.

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    Alberto 07-10-16
    Alberto 07-10-16
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    "Intresting audiobook"
    What did you love best about The Upside of Your Dark Side?

    It has a different point of you of our negative side. Rather and pushing it away. I recommend it.


    What does Jeff Cummings bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    Looking at negative things and emotions from a different perspective


    6 of 9 people found this review helpful
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    VerdereC Palo Alto, CA 09-14-16
    VerdereC Palo Alto, CA 09-14-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Need more focus on using Dark Side & less preachin"

    Part of my negative review is the previous book I read ( Psychopath Whisperer) was so good, but this content is a good follow up because it shows how all personality aspects can be used effectively

    9 of 14 people found this review helpful

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