The Science of Trust

Emotional Attunement for Couples

By: John M. Gottman Ph.D.

Narrated by: J. Charles

Length: 16 hrs and 25 mins

Publisher's summary

For the past 35 years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship.

Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect each other, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times.

Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient.

This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers a detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

©2012 John M. Gottman (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

Changed my life

This audio book has changed my relationships improving the way I relate and interact with family, friends and acquaintances for the better. I started following John Gottman work thanks to my therapist and I got this book due to the failure of the potential romantic relationship I was just getting into. The book is really practical. It really appeal to me all the theory, bibliographic information and all the couple exchange samples. I totally recommended.

Learning to Trust

I learned quite a bit and will listen again with the person that I am trying to trust again...

A book written for counselors

It might be better titled: "The history of the science of trust".
Very technical and informative.

A must read for all couples

This book is a must read for all couples. It has got sound research backed theories. It is easy to understand.

power information about math of trust

This book is very useful in understanding the granularity of trust, betrayal, and more. This book gives solid evidence of what works and does not work in long term happy marriages. The math of a gratifying and sustainable marriage is now available.

Very Interesting

I really enjoyed learning about how people give and receive trust. I think it is helping in my own relationships.

This book is fascinating!

Yes it is like a textbook. It was hard to understand the first time I listened to it. I have listened to it so many times now I practically have some of it memorized. The reader is amazing, the book is densely packed with information and dialogue, but he very clearly reads it all. I almost thought it was John Gottman reading it. It is almost a compilation of all his writings, which are amazing good sense, plus more info gained by years of experience.

The Key to relationships gold 🥇

The science of trusts is exceptional on the relationship between people truth and Trust. if you can handle the heavy clinical verbiage it is for everyone.

excellent couples relationship book

great relationship book with practical changes you can make to relate to your significant other more positively

Not kidding when they say its the science of trust

There was a lot more math and philosophical theories in this book then I was anticipating. At times I felt like I was reading the scientific journal of the experimenter. Overall, this book has a lot of phenomenal information that will help anyone build trusting relationships if they apply the principals.