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Publisher's Summary

The Real Purpose of Parenting is a series of stories and life lessons from the world of a therapist, known as The Parent Coach. Very well-intentioned, well meaning parents are at the point of crisis with their kids because their own best parenting efforts are NOT producing the children they want them to be. And there, according to Dr. Phil Dembo, lies the problem.

In The Real Purpose of Parenting, even the best parents are capable of smothering the growth of their kid’s life. This can happen because the truth of who the child is, and what the child truly needs is often overlooked or ignored in the agenda that many parents lay out for their kids. Thus...often landing the family in a colossal melt down.

Dr. Dembo shows simple family “turn around” strategies that reframe the real purpose of parenting and gives each family, and child, their own salvation.

©2012 Dr. Phillip B. Dembo (P)2012 Gildan Media, LLC

Critic Reviews

“If only we all could have had Dr. Phil Dembo as our father! His book reads less as a self-help manual and more like insights from a wise elder.” (Vickie Falcone, M.A., author of Buddha Never Raised Kids & Jesus Didn’t Drive Carpool: Seven Principles for Parenting With Soul)

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  • BW
  • 12-06-15

helped me with my 19 year old son to think differe

Makes me look at things in a different way with my very difficult 19 year old son. I was about to disown him and instead am trying what I learned from the book. We will see if it works, but I was at the end of my rope. Thank you for the information.

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  • Cameron
  • DARLINGTON, Australia
  • 12-02-15

Nuggets of wisdom let down by poor delivery

As a new parent I found a lot of value in certain elements of this book.

I love the idea that the role of parents is to coach and guide the development of their child through the perspective of the child's emotional experience rather than to force behaviour based on the parent's picture of the way a child should be and act. To respond rather than react. There are good uses of stories as both examples and warnings spread throughout the book which are used to illustrate this theme.

This core concept is very much let down by its delivery, both the in the writing style and, to a greater extent, the narration.

The narrator (the author himself) has an extremely nasal voice and a very monotone delivery. At times he seems bored by his own writing. The attempts at humour throughout the book fall somewhat flat, and a few areas of the book have an almost smug tone to them.

Despite the drawbacks of the narration, there is still great value to be found in this book. I will definitely take some of the ideas (leaving a few others) and try to incorporate them into my approach as a parent.

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  • Tina
  • Austin, TX, United States
  • 03-20-14

Could not get into this one

Would you try another book from Dr. Phillip B Dembo and/or Dr. Phillip B Dembo?

I would try another book if it had a different narrator - I simply could not listen to the author's voice for any length of time - I couldn't lose myself in the words that way I can with most books. It felt like the author/narrator was simply reading and not talking or living the information. It's cold and dry, like a lecture that no one will really be able to connect with.

What didn’t you like about Dr. Phillip B Dembo’s performance?

I hate to be harsh, but some faces are meant for radio and some authors were never meant to be orators. This is the case with Dr. Dembo - sorry, dude!

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  • Betty
  • HENDERSON, NV, US
  • 12-30-12

Terrific

Would you listen to The Real Purpose of Parenting again? Why?

I have and will. So I will remember

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Real Purpose of Parenting?

His parents trying to make him look like everyone else.

Which character – as performed by Dr. Phillip B Dembo – was your favorite?

Himself

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes

Any additional comments?

no

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  • Linda
  • CHESTERFIELD, MO, United States
  • 03-20-12

All parents need to hear this

If you could sum up The Real Purpose of Parenting in three words, what would they be?

An important book

What did you like best about this story?

I loved the real stories the author told in his own voice. It felt so personal, like I was sitting in the same room with Dr. Dembo and he was talking directly to me. I could relate to all of the stories that he told.

Have you listened to any of Dr. Phillip B Dembo’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

Yes, I have heard Dr. Dembo speak before. He is a wonderful speaker. He has a great voice and is enjoyable to listen to.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

One thing that I will remember from the book is to respond to my children, not react.

Any additional comments?

I wish everyone would listen to Dr.Dembo's words. They are very important to all parents and children.

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Author is self-important and pedantic

What was most disappointing about Dr. Phillip B Dembo’s story?

First off, the tone and tenor of Dr. Dembo just sounded pedantic to me. Also, I absolutely hated that he so easily categorized a child as "not a student". What does that mean anyways? Every child is a student - everyone is a student... we all have different learning styles. If every child went to see Dr. Dembo, they would turn out to be the VERY antithesis of the children Tiger Moms hope to raise - accepting mediocrity and lacking discipline. I detest what Tiger Mom stands for, but in Dr. Dembo's office, there is no room for those who believe that practice - sometimes grueling, difficult, undesirable, not fun kind -makes perfect.

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  • ANDRÉ
  • ORLANDO, FL, United States
  • 01-11-13

A Great Surprise

I don't like psychology books. I prefer books based in proofs, studies... But this one, simply grabbed my attention from beginning to end. A well written text, with many compelling stories. I had to re-think the real purpose of parenting-- the picture that we imagine of our children is not THEIR objective and we should only coach them in life, not pushing them into that picture until they fit.

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3 hours I'll never get back

Would you try another book from Dr. Phillip B Dembo and/or Dr. Phillip B Dembo?

Nope

What do you think your next listen will be?

Not a book on parenting by a self important expert. By the way, if you are a parent, you are as much an expert as any other and THE expert on your child.

How could the performance have been better?

Don't condescend to the listener.

Any additional comments?

I expected to learn something novel or unique from this book, but like a playground mothers group it is didactic and judgemental.

1 of 7 people found this review helpful