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Publisher's Summary

Find out how women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves.

Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, listen to The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.

Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back. This book:

  • Explains how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones.
  • Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves.
  • Is written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships.

Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome tells you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.

©2008 Beverly Engel (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

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"This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers." (Publishers Weekly)

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Not what I expected...

Some of this book did not sit well with me. There were several references to childhood trauma, forgiving your parents for abuse, that just didn't seem to fit with what had just been discussed. I have no childhood traumas or abuse from family - which after listening to this book it seems that women who have gone thru this seemed to be the target audience. I thought the book would be more about how to be assertive & better express yourself/emotions, etc - not recovering from physical & emotional abuse.

While parts were slightly relatable to my situation, nothing gave me that "ah ha!" moment of thats what i need to do with myself. But hey, thats my opinion. Others may find just what they need out of this book.

7 of 7 people found this review helpful

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very true &pleasing tone

most examples were so accurate you would think the nice girl syndrome was a pandemic.
it sure seems to be.
the emphasis is on learnt submission in childhood and watching other women act this way, 'taking things lying down'.
I did this for so long to be accepted and avoid displeasure. I like the tone of the book and the narrative is very pleasing. you will like listening as it explains scenarios and why it went wrong. specificity is important when dealing with the fragile human psyche.
I like the book alot. it will address all important human relationships the nice girl has been conditioned to become a people pleaser at her cost.

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  • Inna
  • Toronto, ON, Canada
  • 01-14-13

Very useful book for every nice girl!

Thank you very much for this book! May be for some people this book will not "work", but for me personally it helped me out of a very large personal crisis. Thank you again,

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  • Kiryat Ono, Israel
  • 01-21-13

Very helpful book for (too) nice people..

Many times in my life people told my i was "too nice".. Now i know clearly what they meant and why i acted like that. The thing is that there is a difference between being just nice (polite, friendly etc.) to people that is generally OK and being TOO nice. Being too nice is letting some people take advantage of you, hurt or manipulate... Unfortunatelly we live in the world that not everyone is so called "nice", so it's very important to know the difference... Everybody want to be good - man want to be "good guys" and women want to be "nice girls", but it's very important to know and not to cross the limits. this book helped me a lot to understand myself, why i acted like i acted in the past, and to understand and see clearly that some people tried to manipulate me, now i see the truth. I recommend this book to all the women that are little bit naive or wearing "pink glasses" and wants to believe that human nature is all good etc. well it is sometimes, and sometimes not. Thank you Beverly for this honest and straightforward book!

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helpful and I wish I would read it sooner

if you've spent your entire life worrying about everyone else's feelings, yet never receive any consideration for your own feelings, this book will help you so much! I'm learning to not be a doormat anymore and this was the first step in the right direction. take that step, too!

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found out this is not my problem

interesting realized it's not my issue. moving on to another book, to find my story.

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book for healing

learned so much, able to admit that i have nice girl syndrome and feel that i now have the tools to overcome it. i feelin stronger and empowered not to go back to ole habits

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I wish I'd read this years ago.

I've been a doormat my whole life, and I didn't really know why. I also had no idea how common my issues were. Although I couldn't relate to some of the things in this book, overall it was extremely eye-opening. I'd recommend it to anyone who's ever felt small, afraid of conflict, and undeserving of just treatment.

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  • 08-15-16

BS!

Another author who cites questionable statistics about men abusers and plays the victim card well! sad!

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  • yasmine
  • 04-01-17

AMAZING BOOK

this book is amazing I can't begin to describe how much it helped to develop as a person. everyone can make use of this book. Thank you so much for all the advice.

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  • Sharon
  • 02-14-17

Stunningly accurate and helpful

I loved every minute of this book. I felt as if the author was speaking to me and knew me. Narrator has a lovely voice too.