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The Defining Decade Audiobook

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to Make the Most of Them Now

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Publisher's Summary

Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Drawing from more than 10 years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, Dr. Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling, behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. She shares what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, reproductive specialists, human-resources executives, and economists know about the unique power of our 20s and how they change our lives. The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant listen that shows us why our 20s do matter. Our 20s are a time when the things we do - and the things we don't do - will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette

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    Jason 04-25-16
    Jason 04-25-16
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    "Very informative as a 24 year old"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I would recommend this book for anyone in the 20 - 32 age. There is a lot that may not apply to you, as it did me, but it will get you thinking in a different mindset. I no longer want to put certain things off, and have less regret and remorse about previous mistakes.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    The girl that realized she needed to work on herself, when she had initially came to therapy to try and get her boyfriend to change.


    Which scene was your favorite?

    Not really a scene, but when the guy opened up his own dog daycare business.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    All of the stories of the various clients / patients when they had come to a realization of their mistakes and incorrect or misconceived notions / logic.


    Any additional comments?

    I like this book, it a steep price for only a 5 hour book, but I really would recommend it.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Valerie A. Lapointe 05-21-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Essential reading for every 20 something"

    Meg Jay is the shot of adrenaline that every struggling 20 something needs. She doesn't push, or lecture but rather presents sobering facts and nudges helpfully.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
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    "Excellent - Time Well Spent"
    What made the experience of listening to The Defining Decade the most enjoyable?


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    My twenty two year old daughter just graduated from college and will be moving out of state. My wife listened to the audio version and bought two hard cover copies, one for our daughter and one for our twenty something son who lives in another city. It must have struck a chord as these young adults couldn't put it down, and asked if Meg Jay had any other books (not yet).

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    tgrah 06-21-17
    tgrah 06-21-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Explains the 20-something dilemma"

    Megan Jay's research and subsequent book delves into the psyche of the 20 something in a way that is both impressive and frightful. Her advice is excellent for anyone trying to better understand the 20 something in their life, but is critical for anyone who finds themself (like me) in this defining decade. Megan, thank you.

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    Julia 06-06-17
    Julia 06-06-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Every young person NEEDS to read this"

    I loved this book. I recently graduated from college and although I have an idea what I want to do, I'm technically taking gap years. Instead of treating this as a time to "find myself" this book encouraged me to do that in addition to prepping for my future career and family in a positive, good way. I highly encourage this book, especially if you feel that you've lost direction or need to find some more motivation within yourself!

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    Trevor 05-27-17
    Trevor 05-27-17 Member Since 2015
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    "TED talk on steroids"

    I never forgot Jay's TED talk. I saw it a couple years into my 20s, and it has truly changed how I think about this time of my life. I was glad to find that this book is more than just a retread of that talk — it has the same elements and then some, more in depth of course. I love how she's a therapist with the courage to give her clients (and readers) a gentle kick in the pants! Listening to Jay read this book aloud, I often got that nice warm feeling you get in the presence of a wise and caring guide. By the way, be prepared to hear some things you didn't want to hear. Lots of us feel like conventional work isn't special enough for us; we don't really enjoy being cautioned against "throwaway" romantic relationships; etc. But the doctor's got a point.

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    omanee 05-09-17
    omanee 05-09-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Ted talk got me here"

    Good info . Lame delivery . She was way more exciting during her TED talk . She made some really interesting points. Probably would've liked it more if I read it vs her monotone delivery

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    kristen zdankiewicz 04-30-17
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    "the best self help yet"

    I wish I could put more into words how this book made me feel. the amount of help it offered me is unbelievable. although I am 27, married with a mortgage and two pups, i have felt like I've been navigating my 20's by myself and slowly. this book made me realize just where I am at, where I'm succeeding, and where I need help. my therapist suggested this, and it has done so much for me. I can't wait to tell her all that I discovered listening to this audio.

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    Jane Haverty 04-30-17
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    "Excellent. Important to know"
    What did you love best about The Defining Decade?

    Its relevance, ease of reading, clarity


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    One's twenties may be THE most important, life-defining period of time in life. Don't squander it.


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    Karine 04-13-17
    Karine 04-13-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Excellent"

    J'ai beaucoup aimé ce livre. Il fournit des réponses aux questions qu'on se pose dans la vingtaine et nous ouvre les yeux. Je vais certainement le réécouter.

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