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Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Drawing from more than 10 years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, Dr. Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling, behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. She shares what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, reproductive specialists, human-resources executives, and economists know about the unique power of our 20s and how they change our lives. The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant listen that shows us why our 20s do matter. Our 20s are a time when the things we do - and the things we don't do - will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette

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Essential reading for every 20 something

Meg Jay is the shot of adrenaline that every struggling 20 something needs. She doesn't push, or lecture but rather presents sobering facts and nudges helpfully.

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Excellent - Time Well Spent

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My twenty two year old daughter just graduated from college and will be moving out of state. My wife listened to the audio version and bought two hard cover copies, one for our daughter and one for our twenty something son who lives in another city. It must have struck a chord as these young adults couldn't put it down, and asked if Meg Jay had any other books (not yet).

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A must read for 20-somethings

Any person going into or in their 20s should read this. It's not the sort of book that makes me think I should do everything it says. Rather, it gives you a few things to think about. I would listen to this repeatedly, just to see how the information grows on me.

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Great Book for twenty something's...

The narration was wonderful. This book was very inspirational and related well with my struggle as a twenty something. I could listen to this book multiple times.

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I want all my brothers to read this

I loved this book, and I'm going to recommend it to my younger brothers and friends. It gives some much needed direction to the years we are told don't matter. My youngest brother is 21 and not going to college, working at a hotel front desk, and spends all his money on rent and music festivals. This book explains what I've been trying to tell him, but with studies and evidence.

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Good... but missing something!

This book is just what I needed at this point of my life. It was the push that I was looking for! Also, this book made me realize how much I’ve accomplished on my almost finished twenties. The only thing that I think was missing is that the author doesn’t speak about resiliency and the power of mistakes and adversity. I feel this book is targeted to twenty year olds living in first world countries with comfort. What about the other twenty year olds who are struggling working in jobs they hate because they actually don’t have other option? The author needs to broaden her perspective a little.

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Great to get your butt in gear

It's a very insightful book, and I only wished I had found this book when I was struggling with my identity/existential crisis at 16. The advice in this book is terrific and really makes you re-evaluate your life in relation to your social circle and society in general. She definitely focuses on a lot of what people in their 20s might scoff at: stable jobs, kids, houses etc. But those are important things to decide, or at least have a decent idea of, early on. Delaying commitment in life doesn't mean leaving options open, but simply lets other factors make your decisions for you rather than taking responsibility for your own life.

Overall very insightful, a little repetitive with the explanation of very basic psych/neuroscience concepts, but very very informative.

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The Defining Decade

I wish I would have read this book sooner. As a 25 year old I feel like not many books are targeted to my audience that give real life advice, it's all about entertainment these days.

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Thought voice would throw me off...it didn't

This book was a perfect balance of anecdotes and applicable information. Would recommend for anyone in their 20s. Life changing!

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Amazingly Insightful!

This book was amazingly insightful! I am twenty-five years old and was definitely struggling to make sense of my life in this decade and I now know that the "perfect life" doesn't just come, it is one that is worked and prepared for. The twenties are a time of preparing, planning, and investing in the kind of life that we want by living intentionally--We prepare by paying attention to ourselves and to our lives, by knowing what we hope to accomplish and having a plan to get there! Thanks Dr. Jay for this awesome book! It has changed my life.