Everyone has a legitimate desire to have a better life. Having a better life could mean different things to different people. What a man considers to be a better life may be different from what a woman considers to be better. Also what a young person considers a better life would be different from what an older person considers a better life. For young people in their 20s, a better life could mean having many materials things (car, house, clothes, money, etc.), which they believe would make them happy.
For older people, a better life would be living their dreams, with lots of passion, laughter, and love, which of course bring happiness to them. Not a material thing in sight! Even though our definition of what a better life is can change over the years, the steps we take to attain that better life don't really change. As Elbert Hubbard said, a sculptor creates the beautiful statue through a process of chipping away the parts of the marble that are not needed. This process of elimination is what we need to take onboard as we try to eliminate those things we do that prevent us from attaining better lives for ourselves.
No matter your age or gender, and whatever "better life" means to you, you can attain that legitimate desire by chipping away those parts of your life that are not needed. Also, if you do want to create change in your life, get clear on the definition of what a better life is for YOU. This will help you identify the key things that you need to stop doing so you can have a better life.