Rejection Proof is Jia Jiang's entertaining and inspiring account of conquering his fear of rejection, offering a completely new perspective on how to turn a no into a yes.
Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. Despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. Jia was crushed and spiraled into a period of deep self-doubt. But he realized that his fear of rejection was a bigger obstacle than any single rejection would ever be, and he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his "100 days of rejection" experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis - from requesting a lesson in sales from a car salesman (no) to asking a flight attendant if he could make an announcement on the loudspeaker (yes) to his famous request to get Krispy Kreme doughnuts in the shape of Olympic rings (yes, with a viral video to prove it).
Jia learned that even the most preposterous wish may be granted if you ask in the right way, and here he shares the secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial no can be converted into something positive. But more important, he learned techniques for steeling himself against rejection and ways to develop his own confidence - a plan that can't be derailed by a single setback.
Filled with great stories and valuable insight, Rejection Proof is a fun and thoughtful examination of how to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly.
This was such an enlightening little book. It goes beyond embracing fear, embracing rejection, and flows straight into embracing life: What a concept! You'll be tickled pink at how creative Jia Jiang gets in TRYING to find things to fail at. There's a positive joy in it.
The key thing is that it takes practice to be resilient, practice to find joy and confidence despite the outcome. I've read/listened to many, many (oh GOD: MANY!) self-development books on fear, and this is the only one that has humor in it. Don't get me wrong, he started off as somebody absolutely dedicated to not trying, to living his life for other people, but he blossomed in a truly magnificent way.
During each failure exercise, he analyzed and learned something new, and we can too. Personally, I have six rejection slips from agents, and the book got me thinking: What? Why so few?!? I have GOT to get out there and practice what this little book teaches.
It's a wonderful text, narrated well, and it cracked me up. Inspiring...!
73 of 80 people found this review helpful
Easy and quick read. Kept me engaged and created excitement. Had me view rejection in a different light. Love the Cialdini reference :)
34 of 37 people found this review helpful
This book demonstrates how changing one's perception of an obstacle can help overcome it.
28 of 31 people found this review helpful
The fear of rejection is a real stumbling block for most, if not all of us. Intuitively we know we should not fear rejection. We know if we felt like we had nothing to lose, we could accomplish much more in life. But our evolutionary programming makes that fear very strong and hard to overcome.
The only way to begin to control this fear, it seems, is to face it. Over and over again. And that simple and powerful idea is what this book is about.
This book is not a systematic scientific study of the problem, but it does provide a lot of valuable insight through the stories of the author’s experiences tackling his fear of rejection.
I highly recommend “Rejection Proof”. It’s a great beginning.
I hope in time even more will be written about this topic.
6 of 6 people found this review helpful
If you have a friend who is struggling with unemployment or career change give this book to them. Action Cures Fear!
25 of 28 people found this review helpful
Rejection Proof was surprisingly enlightening! Along other things I discovered that overcoming fear and having fun are the keys to success!
23 of 26 people found this review helpful
This is by far the most inspiring book I've read in years. The content and narration are really excellent. I wish I could have read it earlier.
21 of 24 people found this review helpful
It delivers a good balance between storytelling and lessons learned. One should be able to practice most of the learnings.
21 of 24 people found this review helpful
This is an excellent book, not only for entrepreneurs, but for people who are looking to grow in areas that they are uncomfortable.
20 of 23 people found this review helpful
one of the most genuine self effacing self help books I have ever listen to even though the author would say it is not a self help book it is thank you for reading this book
22 of 26 people found this review helpful