Life Bites Series. It is important that we prioritise certain aspects of our lives otherwise we never get anything done or it happens in the wrong way. Similarly we need an agenda too, even if it is just something simple at the back of our mind. It's when we have negative or subversive or hidden agendas or others in their own way do that so to "use" us to further their cause.
Those that stroll through life rarely get anything grand done and often wonder how others manage. Yet those that do take time and effort to carefully plan their duties and lives often wonder how those that have no overall plan even keep on living. We need to prioritize in life and what may be important to us may not to someone else - that's fine, we live our life not theirs. Our agendas represent what we want to achieve for what purpose and similarly what others do may be a million miles away from what we do, but that's okay too, as we live our lives for ourselves they likewise with their own.
It's not being selfish, doing things for yourself - it is taking charge and that we must do. There is always plenty of time to think of others when our tasks are met and we are comforted and not stressed out by negative thoughts of others.