• Parenting Without Power Struggles

  • Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected
  • By: Susan Stiffelman
  • Narrated by: Susan Stiffelman
  • Length: 8 hrs and 36 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (294 ratings)

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By: Susan Stiffelman
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Publisher's summary

Do you ever find yourself asking...

  • How can you get your children to do their homework without meltdowns, threats, or bribes?
  • How can you have a drama-free morning where the kids actually get out the door in time for school?
  • How can you better manage your kids' screen time without making them want to hide what they're doing from you?

Family therapist Susan Stiffelman is here to help. While most parenting programs are designed to coerce kids to change, Parenting Without Power Struggles does something innovative, showing you how to help your children awaken their natural instincts to cooperate, rather than employing threats or bribes, which inevitably fuels their resistance. By staying calm and being the confident "captain of the ship" your child needs, you will learn how to parent from a place of strong, durable connection, and you'll be better able to help your kids navigate the challenging moments of growing up.

Drawing upon her successful practice and packed with real-life stories, Parenting Without Power Struggles is an extraordinary guidebook for transforming the day-to-day lives of busy parents - and the children they love.

©2010 Susan Stiffelman (P)2013 Tantor

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"Stiffelman's engaging work gives parents tools to navigate confidently in both calm and stormy family seas." ( Publishers Weekly)

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Truly helped

The voice of the author is so calming and the content goes beyond the surface into the heart of the issues and doesn't just offer support for the crazy moments but offers strategies to have a lifetime of connection and love with your children!

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Great book!

Very helpful for building a relationship with your kids, which then turns into an easier time parenting. I just bought her next book and I'm so excited to see what new things I can learn.

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Good but...

I felt that the content was good but the thing that drove me a little crazy at the beginning was that the narrator was reading extremely slow. I had to turn the speed up to 1.5 to get it to the pace that I normally listen to books.

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Game changer...

I love the ideas in this book. This is a paradigm shifter. I think parenting this way has the power to change our society.

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The ONLY parenting book to buy!

This is the manual you should have received when your kid was born. Thank you Susan Stiffleman!

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My parenting bible!!!

My son is almost 9. A friend recommended this book to me about 18 months ago. I bought it in hard copy. I was in overwhelm with my son's attitude and defiant behavior. Homework was a new ingredient for us and we could not work together. My parenting confidence took a nose dive and my son sensed it. The birth of the power struggle happened at that time.

It's been a difficult journey the past 18 months. My son was diagnosed with "Oppositional Defiance Disorder" and I felt helpless. I had to change things up. I was not going to fail him.

My husband and I restructured our parenting

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Highly recommended.

This was a great book. It suggests a very caring and appealing parenting approach and the author's logic is hard to disagree with.

I have already strengthened the relationship I have with my son using this author's advice and that to me is a priceless reward for buying "Parenting Without Power Struggles". My only quibble is that while the advice in this book will probably work with less compliant, stronger-willed children like my daughter, it seemed to me that it would take a long time to have the effect I needed to happen ASAP.

I found "Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child" worked quickly and effectively for my hard-case daughter, who was starting to drive me crazy. But, if I also follow the "Parenting Without Power Struggles" approach, I am sure that will deepen my relationship with her over the long-term. So, I'd recommend both books and both approaches, despite this author's distaste for time-outs and consequences.

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Amazing!

Loved this book from beginning to end! Susan breaks this concept down so simply, and in a way that makes your heart swell with love and joy for the parenting experience!

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Must read for all parents

One of the best parenting book I have read recently and highly recommended! Thank you Susan!

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perfect book at the perfect moment of need

listening to this on my commute to and from work was like a daily pep talk. I would actually be prepared when I got home for whatever chaos greeted me and handled myself well... now that I'm done with the book I'm passing the info on to my bf so we can be better parents together. my sister has started reading this now

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