• Not a Match

  • My True Tales of Online Dating Disasters
  • By: Brian Donovan
  • Narrated by: Ax Norman
  • Length: 2 hrs and 11 mins
  • 3.1 out of 5 stars (1,544 ratings)

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By: Brian Donovan
Narrated by: Ax Norman
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Brian Donovan’s comic tale of his history with Internet dating might seem mean-spirited if the criticism weren’t, in large part, self-deprecating. Donovan, who’s written for Late Night With Jimmy Fallon and Chapelle’s Show, mines the deep well of comedic gold that is Internet dating by going on an exorbitant amount of dates with all sorts of women - and a few that he couldn’t even be sure were women. Ax Norman delivers Donovan’s chronicles in a personal tone that feels both instructional and confessional. If you’re one of the millions of people who’ve experienced online dating for yourself, or if you’re a curious outsider, prepare yourself for an insider's look at the widely popular phenomenon and all of the insights into human relationships it provokes.

Publisher's summary

Forty million people in the US have tried Internet dating, which means 40 million people have probably gone on some pretty crappy dates. Not a Match: My True Tales of Online Dating Disasters is about one guy who experienced more than his fair share. Brian Donovan, a writer and comedian whose work has appeared on Late Night with Jimmy Fallon, NPR, and Chapelle's Show, has been on over 100 Internet dates in a genuine search for love and happiness.

©2013 Brian Donovan (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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LOL Funny!

Where does Not a Match rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I was pleasantly surprised at how funny this book was. It can be difficult to deliver comedy in written form without being offensive but Brian Donovan does just that. I probably liked it so much because I've been on some of those same types of dates and could identify with him.

Which scene was your favorite?

Sex crier was probably my favorite story. You'd be surprised how many of my guy friends have had this happen to them.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes, but I split it into 2 days anyways.

Any additional comments?

The ending fell a little short but overall I'd highly recommend it to anyone has ever been on a date. There's something about hearing all those terrible stories that reminds you that your dating life really isn't that bad.

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Interesting journey

This is a catalog showcasing how horribly bad dating can go, and although I don't usually listen to this kind of stuff I found it hard to put down.

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Funny... Avoid OkCupid

It was a good book to pass sometime and hear someone's stories of the online dating world!

I learning just how crazy the questions on OkCupid are.

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I Found it Hilarious

So out of pain comedy can rise. Right? I mean sometimes you have to laugh at your situation(s) or you will breakdown crying. Not every subject was funny but I found myself laughing mostly throughout this story. I do hope things have gotten better for Brian Donovan.

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Diet Coke Out-the-Nose Funny!

Valentine's Day was rough, and not only because I'm not dating right now. I do have a long term, significant relationship with The 57 North. It's steady, reliable, and has very few surprises, good or bad. In fact, sometimes it's delightfully smooth.

I've tried going out with other freeways, but those evenings usually end in spectacular disaster. The 5 North to The 605 North always promises a wonderful time on Waze (the GPS equivalent of OKCupid - Garmin is more like the staid, conservative Match), but those hopes are usually dashed by a 3 car accident not quite pulled out of the right lane of traffic of the very narrow 5 as it enters Los Angeles County, or a semi tanker carrying something flammable on broken down on a transition.

This Valentine's Day, every freeway and surface street in OC and LA conspired to make my trip home as drawn out and excruciating as all of Brian Donavan's 100+ internet dates rolled into one. I was so glad to have "Not a Match: My True Tales of Online Dating Disasters" (2013) to laugh at. Donavan's an observant and funny writer, and Ax Norman was a great voice for the story. Turned my Eco-friendly Insight into a little comedy club for a couple of hours and made Valentine's Day memorable - in a good way.

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FUNNY STUFF-TO MANY CUSS WORDS

This book was free so I downloaded it. I started to listen to it on the way to NC w/my husband and teenage boys in the truck. It started off really funny. I was raised not to swear in conversation as it's not lady like. However, when I'm angry I lose this upbringing and at times can spout off some whoppers. My grandmother use to say people who swear in conversation had a poor vocabulary. Point being, the book is funny and had my children not been w/me I'd have finished the book during the trip. I've heard my kids swear and though I've raised them better, I'm not a fool and I falter too. However, I felt it too much, too often and in may places unnecessary through out this book.

The narrator is great! His voice is perfect for retelling/reading this story.

The book IS REALLY FUNNY book. If you don't mind swear words or don't have kids nearby while listening you'll do fine.

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No Match here,either

I got this book for free and I'm glad it was free. I thought it might be a funny and lighthearted look at modern dating woes. Lots of ammo on that front, I'm sure.
There were some really funny parts, but this is not a book for anyone but adults definitely from an R to X rating. Also, profanity.
However, having said I don't particularly like the book the author was great!
I loved his style, it drew me in and I could read other subjects written by him. Please, branch out from here, I think you've gotten all the mileage you can out of e-dating.

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Great listen for a long trip

What did you love best about Not a Match?

I read this during a 8 hour car ride and because each chapter was like a shortstory, it didn't matter that I was interrupted many times.The stories were a mixed bag, some made me laugh and others I fast forward.

If you’ve listened to books by Brian Donovan before, how does this one compare?

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Did the narration match the pace of the story?

Yes the narriation matched the pace of story.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

The authors advice was rather good, and written in a non-threatening way.If I needed to go onto a dating site, I think I would use some of his tricks.

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Uneventful... boring.

I did not finish this book. I got to about.. halfway. The story is very uneventful and pretty much boring. Really nothing to write a book about in my opinion. I would spend my money (or credit) on something else :)

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Not bad, but wouldn't recommend to my friends

The author is reasonably engaging, but I can't say I found the book laugh out loud at any point. It was certainly devoid of much useful tactical advice. At least I hope so. Really hoping legions of people don't start adopting the laundry/necrophilia icebreaker. Would have genuinely found it more appealing if he'd added a section where his dates could comment, but I get the sense his ego is a little fragile on that point. The only example he includes is from a woman who granted, did not give much constructive feedback, but the listener is left wondering why, if he's as modestly awesome and long-suffering as he thinks he is, it's taken him over a hundred dates to find someone who finds him appropriate for a long-term match. Presumably guys enjoy this more than women.

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