The absentee father is a crisis that crosses all ethnic boundaries. For too long, many of us have neglected our obligations to our children. One of the causes is poor decision making, resulting in everything from addiction and incarceration, to failure to step up to the plate. No reason is forgivable, as the ultimate victim is the child. It's time to make an attempt to rectify this behavior by establishing or reestablishing relationships with our children.
The "Let's Talk About Me" and "The Real Victim" sections specifically look at my complete failure as a father. The most important part of the document to me is called "Letters from My Children", which was suggested by Aleshia Anderson. I reached out to each child and asked them to discuss our lives before I became actively involved and afterwards. They all responded, and I left it unedited. If one father can gather from this document that it's time to reconnect with his child, it will be well worth putting it together.
I listened to the first few chapters of this book and it is not what I thought it was about. The book is mainly geared towards dads that possess the stereotype of a "deadbeat." While listening to the author speak, I felt as if I was in the hood listening to a male chauvinist. If you are in and out of your children's lives and have multiple kids with multiple girlfriends, then this book is probably for you.