Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl

By: Natalie Lue

Narrated by: Lucy Price-Lewis

Length: 10 hrs and 16 mins

Publisher's summary

Are you the Fallback Girl? If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one, but you're struggling with commitment, or you've been in the ambiguous territory of a "casual relationship", you've likely tried to change them, wondered what you did to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you're going crazy.

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women who love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold to where that future they promised went to, how you've ended up being a booty call, why you've been together for a gazillion years but aren't going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you're involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here.

You know you're dealing with unavailability when you ask stuff like: What happened to that great guy from the beginning? Why won't he break up or stay away if he doesn't want to commit? What the hell did I do to make him disappear? Is he going to leave her for me? It's because he's shy/busy/scared of his feelings, isn't it? Inspired by the real-life adventures in unavailability of Natalie Lue and the readers of her site, BaggageReclaim.com.

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is an empowering, entertaining, and inspiring read that will wise you up to pitfalls such as men who aren't over their exes, Future Fakers, guys who have more baggage than a Heathrow terminal, and reappearing childhood sweethearts. If you want to understand your own availability and why commitment in a healthy relationship is eluding you, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is your guide to being available and attracted to healthy, available partners.

Back in the summer of 2005, Natalie Lue was a single advertising executive wondering out loud on her blog why she had a penchant for unavailable men. Using her site, BaggageReclaim.com, to answer that question while transforming her life, her blog has become a go-to source for understanding emotional unavailability, commitment, dating, relationships and self-esteem while inspiring many thousands of people to change their own relationship habits.

©2011 Natalie Lue (P)2015 Audible, Ltd

100% Yes.

If you're even looking at this review, answer is yes, definitely buy the book. It is fantastic! More amazingness than I can even begin to tell you.

Mandatory

I wish I encountered something like this decades ago. Sage, practical wisdom for anyone with less than healthy relationships. Truly a life saver!

LOVED the entertaining lecture :-)

Wonderfully narrated... not only extremely funny, but also gave me tremendous strength and insight into my own unavailability. Today is the first day of the rest of my life.
p.s. I may even listen to it again...

great 4 the girl confused

2 yrs ive been in a fallback girl relationship with an unavailable man. this book was eye opening.

I think I need the follow up book

I came to this book with pretty good knowledge that I was a fall back girl and it was my own responsibility and in order to move to healthy relationships I needed more information. This book definitely helped me erase any of my inner flip-flopping or desire to distract myself from the reality of things by trying to fix others or buffer or be buffered. I need to go back through it one more time and peel out the reconstruction of life parts. The descriptions over-layered for me and my experiences and that was reassuring creating a readiness to deepen my self esteem and use my fix-it energies in healthy ways that don't include relationship. I'm sure a healthy relationship is work of it's own but I can imagine with two people having the same goal and skills it's got to be easier and less drama and chaos filled than what I've done so far.
The performance was good I just took a while to acclimate to the accent and I wish I'd known the cultural references weren't American. It's all good, it just takes an inner moment of conversion and with so much covered that effects me deeply I feel I'll need to go through it again and take notes.

Great book

Great narration! I have listened to this twice now and will definitely listen to it again. Something about hearing a voice saying it that makes it stick.

Great listen

I throughly enjoyed this book, because I have found myself committed to a mr. Unavailable as of recently and he and the relationship checked off MANY boxes. With me already being on my journey of cutting ties for good this book has been an additional guide along with professional counseling. I will no longer allow myself to be ANYONE’S fallback girl.

Amazing Advice Book

Insightful and valuable advice on regaining your self respect. Natalie Lue does a better job than most therapists in understanding the mindset of unavailable men and women. I highly recommend reading the book several times due to the high volume of important information provided. A great self improvement guide!

Very helpful

The author explores the complex dynamics of unavailable relationships in a way that is direct, concrete and digestible. Great narration, she really brings it to life.

life changing. I can finally move on.

I can finally move in with my life. the book was as if someone made a movie of my life and then rode it in this book. So many questions have been answered