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Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

©2006 Esther Perel (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers

Critic Reviews

"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)

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Brilliant!

Brilliant! And could very easily be a major life saver for many relationships. I am recommending it to all of my friends...those who are single and those who are in committed relationships... Those who are monogamous and those who are polyamorous or otherwise...

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Must read if you are in relationship

Great book! If your are going to get married or married and want to have happy married life, suggest you to read this book.

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Every couple should read.

This book is incredible. So much valuable information that will make you feel seen, heard, understood & empowered. I have recommended this book to all my friends and my husband is reading it as well. A life-changing book.

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a perspective all should consider

surprisingly, I learned so much about myself! married or not, I recommend this book to anyone committed to having a Whole relationship with their partner

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eye opening

not only informs about oneself, gives insight into our influence on our children. I have always been open with my sexuality, but I never thought I could play a huge role in how my children would feel towards their sexuality.

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life changing

I love these books I love the podcast I love just being able to explore the approaches that people take to relationships. I am going to share this with my wife and I hope to have many many deep conversations on understanding each other and where we have been where we are we want to be. I definitely recommend this to folks who have been in relationships are not in relationships or in something it's lingering. five stars for sure.

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A must read —- powerful insight on any romantic relationship

Not only is Esther a delight to listen to because of her beautiful accent, but her writing style, while giving voice to a very delicate topic is absolutely one of the most rich experiences I have had in my audiobook year!

The information contained in this book has the power to transform any relationship. It has helped me see my romantic life through fresh eyes, develop an in Normas sense of compassion not only for myself but for my romantic partner and partners of the past. This is a game changer, a marriage saver, and heart opener, and essential read for anyone For whom romance, sex, relationships, marriage, or commitment are important.... Which is probably everyone.

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Exceptional

A must-read for anyone interested in long-term relationships, whether in one, looking for one, happy or disenchanted. Period!

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insightful

loved this book and all of the perspective it gives. it's worth the listen even if your not having problems.

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loved it!

This book was so interesting. I listened to it in record time. It was very helpful and I can't wait to put the information to good use. Lol!