Mate

Become the Man Women Want

By: Tucker Max, Geoffrey Miller PhD

Narrated by: Geoffrey Miller PhD

Length: 12 hrs and 43 mins

Publisher's summary

The number-one best-selling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys.

Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20-plus years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities.

The short answer: Become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work, and a little help.

Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Miss Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way:

• No "seduction techniques"
• No moralizing
• No bullshit

Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you.

Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid!

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2015 Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller PhD (P)2015 Hachette Audio

Should be required reading for all 18 year old males

This book is the best non fiction book I have ever read. I'm 50 years old and jealous of any 18 year old who reads this book before dating. Well, I'm married now, but I just learned A LOT about my wife and why things are the way they are, why things went down the way they did, and what I need to do to make it better. I will definitely listen to this book again.

["WOMEN EVOLVED to like this "X" type of man"]

Information contained is not the end all be all to understanding women and your role in dating. Get out there and learn the lessons for yourself. However, the info contained is a great TOOL I've come across, as a CROSS REFERENCE GUIDE ONLY, and what works for ME when it comes to dating. What works for someone else, might not work for you.

For every lesson in the book authors claim are true, I can find anecdotal reasons as to why they are not true. This left me frustrated and more confused than before but work through it, don't get caught up on facts, just feel whether information applies to you or other's around you so you can cross reference lessons and apply them in your daily dating efforts. At the end of the day it's not about facts being true or not, it's about whether you are producing the result you want with women.
I.E. Author's preach a lot about having good hygiene and appearance but I have witnessed a lot of men with questionable hygiene and shaggy appearances attaining varied results with good looking women.

Best tool in the book is in PDF that gauges whether your mating goals are short term, medium term, or long term. This can provide clarity and help formulate your next move in your dating journey.

BIG FLAW; Assumes the reader is familiar with the BIG 5 Personality Traits in Psychology.

BE ADVISED, If you are not familiar with: 1) Neuroticism, 2) Conscientiousness, 3)Agreeableness, 4)Extroversion, and 5) Openness to Experience, deriving from Personality Psychology, a lot of the information will sound like jargon.This can provide limited clarity and guidance in your dating efforts. If you are the type of man who needs to have a deep understanding of things I recommend using Jordan Peterson's "Understand Myself" personality test or any Big 5 Personality test found online (make sure it's credible), to learn more about yourself and get more substance from this book.

Also, Evolutionary Psychology is a theory, one that sounds good, but is still up for interpretation. As mentioned, the information contained in this book is just a good GUIDE.

I also take issue with the fact that the authors give way too much credit to women as if they are all in tune with their evolutionary dating receptors. They are idealizing women in a sense, don't. They are human just like us and trying to make sense of today's dating dynamics. Be patient with them, and with yourself, it's a numbers game of trial and error.


DATING: "REJECTION IS PART OF THE GAME, ONCE YOU CAN GET PAST THE REJECTION PART, AND ARE INDIFFERENT TO WOMEN LEAVING, YOU'VE GOT THEM." -Patrice O'neal


-Cheers, and good luck to any man worthy of great mating success!

Fantastic book

Fantastic book, would highly recommend to any guy struggling to meet someone, if they are just trying improve themselves, or if they're trying to improve their existing relationship. Really put things into perspective, and helped me put first things first. It's not the end all be all book, but then again when has anyone ever found THAT book?

Not a guide to dating

This book is not a guide to dating, it’s a guide to living. Possibly the greatest, and most useful book ever written.

very informative

Excellent. Well read peppered with good humor . Great information on many levels. I couldn't stop listening listened to entire book in two days. Well worth the filling of one's ears and noggin

Excellent advice and witty delivery

This book is mainly geared toward college age men but I was still able to gain a good deal of insight from it. I only wish Audible would send me the accompanying PDF files in an email.

Scientific based mating book-Brilliant！

What made the experience of listening to Mate the most enjoyable?

The book is solid-grounded in science.
This book has explained the evolutionary causes of all sorts of mating behaviors and why we should do that.
It also emphasis the importance of win-win relationship instead of the zero-sum scenery pictured by many of the PUA books.

Have you listened to any of Geoffrey Miller, PhD’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Mate?

Choose your mating market according to your personal strength is vital for my mating success.
Cultivating your personal traits is far more important than so called "PUA technique".
Do the basic thing, exercise regularly, sleep well and eat properly is of great importance for either your physical and mental health which both help you be more attractive to women and men.
Alter your mindset to be more process-focus instead of outcome-focus, enjoy talking to women and spend time with them without restricting yourself on sex. It should be pleasant in and of itself.

Any additional comments?

Highly recommended!

The Best!!

The best mating/dating guide I've ever read!! covers all bases and if far deeper than all the pua stuff out there. Teaches you how to become the best version of yourself just as much as getting better at dating.

Mandatory reading for men

If you could sum up Mate in three words, what would they be?

What men looking for answers about women and dating need to read.

What did you like best about this story?

It's both science and reality based

Any additional comments?

This should be required reading to males ages 14 and up. PERIOD! You have no idea how much I wish this information was available when I was a kid and struggling to understand women and dating.

Actually good info

Funny, very well thought out.
This is a book I will listen to a couple times over. A lot of good information.