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Loving What Is Audiobook

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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Publisher's Summary

Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls "The Work". In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a 10-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now, in Loving What Is, you can discover the same freedom through The Work.

The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, "It's not the problem that causes our suffering; it's our thinking about the problem." Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is.

Loving What Is will show you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. You'll see people do The Work with Katie on a broad range of human problems, from a wife ready to leave her husband because he wants more sex, to a Manhattan worker paralyzed by fear of terrorism, to a woman suffering over a death in her family. Many people have discovered The Work's power to solve problems; in addition, they say that through The Work they experience a sense of lasting peace and find the clarity and energy to act, even in situations that had previously seemed impossible.

©2002 Byron Kathleen Mitchell; (P)2002 Audio Literature

What the Critics Say

"With warm and nicely chosen interventions with audience members, the authors demonstrate the essentials of accepting realities in others we can't change. It's a hard-charging message, at times relentless, that will shake up any listeners whose lives are held up because of nagging blame or anger toward others." (AudioFile)

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    June Los Alamos, NM, United States 05-01-11
    June Los Alamos, NM, United States 05-01-11 Member Since 2012
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    "Interesting Concepts"

    I agree with many of the concepts that Ms. Katie presents. I think, however, that "The Work" would be almost impossible without help from a therapist. Very interesting.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Beverly Pensacola, FL, United States 09-10-15
    Beverly Pensacola, FL, United States 09-10-15
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    "Horrifying"

    OMG! The book is absolute GARBAGE! The cornerstone of this book is that pretty much nothing is real and that any and everything bad that someone else does to us really isn't bad and if it were bad it is really our fault. Byron Katie actually gets a woman who was repeatedly raped by her father to ask herself how SHE abused Father. Vile and despicable!

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Don Houma, LA, USA 04-21-06
    Don Houma, LA, USA 04-21-06
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    "Katie Helps Clear The Mind"

    Katie, as most of her friends call her, has written this book which is a breath of fresh air in the self-help world. Katie is what she says she is - someone who found a profound but simple method of bringing peace to the mind. Her method of four simple questions is cutting edge. You can hear cognitive relief brought to minds burdoned by their (the mind's) own generation of dischord.

    The book in audible format presents actual Katie interactions with real people doing what Katie describes as "The Work". Quickly, the listener knows Katie is on to something that every person seeks. Amazingly, Katie found this method herself after her own mental pain and life challenge. The listener is instructed how to do "The Work" and benefit from the four simple question's transformative power.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    C S Centerville, UT, USA 04-29-05
    C S Centerville, UT, USA 04-29-05 Member Since 2012
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    "I must have for EVERY LIBRARY!"

    The audio program can really help you in YOUR life. She tells us there are only 3 kinds of business 1)Your Business 2)Others Business 3)God's Business - YOU AND YOUR BUSINESS IS ALL THAT IS FOR YOU! You can help disect what is for you and BE AWARE! Simple and easy, my wife and I listened to this one together and IT WAS MAGIC!!!

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Le Magicien. 12-10-16 Member Since 2017
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    "Okay until she said rape was her fault!!"

    I usually don't leave a review for audible books, but I fall compelled to leave one for this because the book which was overall okay, however when the lady who had been raped needed to turn it around and say that she wanted to be raped almost in a way I was appalled because this was a child who had been raped and she didn't know any better she was innocent, so I was little bit shocked that this was in the story because rape is never anyone's fault. I don't believe people want to get raped. Moreover, to say that the rapist was innocent as well and say he just wanted love was disturbing and disgusting that was a little girl. she said the little girl wanted it because she didn't tell anyone a lot of rape victims just feel shame.

    Also the book was very repetitive the good stuff literally came in the last 30 minutes of the book. I would say you should buy the if you want to live in a state of being delusional. The book is not very practical for day to day .

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    Diane ELLINGTON, CT, United States 09-19-16
    Diane ELLINGTON, CT, United States 09-19-16 Member Since 2011

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    "Very hard to listen too"

    Participants volume is so low and Byron Katie is so loud that you either have to blast the volume in the car to hear the full conversation or miss a lot of what is being said.

    Either way I found Byron Katie's use of the phrases such as "oh honey" and her constant snorting chuckles very annoying. So much so that I was unable to focus on her message and abandoned the book. I have been an audible member since they launched and this will be the first book I will ask for a refund on.

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    Lorrie Ann Belletti 09-03-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Not for me!"

    I love self help books, but this one was definitely NOT for me. I wish I didn't buy it. :(

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Halle Scott 04-24-15
    Halle Scott 04-24-15 Member Since 2016
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    Where does Loving What Is rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    As far as self help books, this was one of the top books.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I like how concise some of the key points were, and I can recall them in my daily life.
    I also laughed at some of the dialog, because she does a good job of finding the humor in how our minds work and how ridiculous our personal expectations can be. There were a few points made that I did not relate to, but that is ok. I think you could do a second read, and sort through some of approaches in more depth.


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    Dominic 11-26-11
    Dominic 11-26-11
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    "Riveting! Simple, clear & powerful process"

    This audiobook is even better than the actual book. It includes actual live conversations between Katie and participants in her workshops doing "the work". Some of the stories and experiences people have gone through are so disturbing they will leave you shocked - be prepared! But it's worth it. It powerfully demonstrates the power of Katie's process. It they can use this to work through those experiences and achieve peace - there's no question it can impact most of our typical day to day anxieties.
    I also enjoyed getting to know Katie through listening to her interact with people. What a beautiful, joyful, innocent, lovely human being. Do not miss this book. Buy it even if you have read the book. It will leave you transformed!

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    Richard CHESAPEAKE, VA, USA 01-23-10
    Richard CHESAPEAKE, VA, USA 01-23-10
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    "What is! Got to love it."

    A down to earth real way to address our "demons", who really are inreality ourselves is disguise. A Wonderful book of self discovery and freedom ... It really is all about us afterall.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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  • Kevin Humphrey
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    "This world is about you"

    Answer four questions to answer every question in your life, awesome mind expanding book I highly recommend to anyone

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  • Mrs Judy Walker
    6/25/16
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    "Life Changing"

    Highly recommended - a radical new way of thinking and living....simple but wise, and delivered with warmth and humour.

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    Breaston, United Kingdom
    6/4/16
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    "Excellent highly recommend!"

    Clear performance from Katie, straight to the point with humour, gained a lot of knowledge from this audio. Going listen again, lots of gems in this book, awesome is what it is!

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  • Mr. J. P. Chandler
    12/16/15
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    "Lifechanging"

    The simplicity of Katie's 4 question process coupled with the authenticity of the whole book makes this absolutely priceless for anyone with an open mind.

    It really does reboot your attitude to life and make you a lover of reality, gets you out of your own way and on route to being the best you can be!

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  • lexxie
    12/3/15
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    "Well worthwhile"

    i will losten to this book over and over. Katie really has insight ans her work is of value to all.

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  • vonnie
    9/22/15
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    "What a revelation"

    Fascinating book. It has made me realise that I often project my own feelings into other peoples behaviour. What an eyeopener. I will be definitely be using this concept in my life from now on.

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  • Sara Perkes
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    9/9/15
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    "Eye opening stuff."

    If you are ready to face yourself, warts and all this is the book for you.
    Wonderful. All the books I have read on spirituality and or maturity this is the simplest and best. Thanks for writing the book.

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  • Chus
    UK
    2/26/14
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    "Great awakemomg call"
    If you could sum up Loving What Is in three words, what would they be?

    Forget about gurus, self-help messiahs and prophets of the new order. This is a very simple approach to facing our lives and ask tough questions about our deepest fears and worries. The audiobook is very crude, at times even shocking, made more dramatic by the real-life extracts included. But this makes it more valuable.
    It's not about being right or wrong, it's about stopping our poisonous thoughts and dare to ask very simple questions. Thoroughly recommended.


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  • Lulu
    LONDON, United Kingdom
    2/3/14
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    "Amazing and life changing"
    If you could sum up Loving What Is in three words, what would they be?

    Relevant, uplifting, necessary


    What did you like best about this story?

    The real life examples, the interviews she has with people and the selection of people chosen cut across different generations, roles and problems I'm life so that many people are likely to identify themselves with the people and problems discussed in the book.


    Which scene did you most enjoy?

    The discussion with the mother suffering from depression with a crying baby


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes, but also to read it several times over!!


    Any additional comments?

    This book is almost like the perfect reference book or life manual!!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Nick
    Gorebridge, United Kingdom
    12/18/13
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    "This will open your eyes! A must read."
    Would you consider the audio edition of Loving What Is to be better than the print version?

    Yes. The dialogues couldn't be replicated in the print version.


    What did you like best about this story?

    It is a simple view on how to radically alter the way you approach life.


    Which character – as performed by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell – was your favourite?

    Not applicable


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes


    Any additional comments?

    No

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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