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What seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse - "It's not my fault!" - is often a dangerous trap, say Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, because people don't recognize what the blaming mindset does to them. It not only keeps them from overcoming the effects of all that they can't control-like other people, circumstances and genetics-but separates them from a solution. And when they give away the ownership of their life, they end up losing the one opportunity they have to fulfill their dreams and enjoy God's best.

Using eight principles, a variety of true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, Cloud and Townsend enlighten readers on how to make empowering choices-and how to build the life they want to live. It may seem impossible but it's true: taking personal responsibility is not only liberating, it is the best-and perhaps the only-way for a person to get what they really want out of life.

©2007 Henry Cloud & John Townsend (P)2008 Oasis Audio

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  • David
  • South Hedland, Australia
  • 03-14-11

TOP BOOK of 2009

This is MY FAVOURITE BOOK for 2009. Each year I choose my favourite out of the 20-30 I read/listen to.
This book was revolutionary for me in two directions. 1) inward - helping me to 'Man Up' and own my situation, whether it be my fault or not. 2) outward - It makes it very clear to see why people are having their issues, and how to help them see that they need to OWN their situation too. Helping people OUT of Victim Mentality INTO Victory mentality.
It's NOT my fault, but it IS my problem.
It's MY job to deal with it.

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  • M
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  • 01-22-15

torres.marthap@gmail.com

Very honest, helpful and substantial!
I highly recommend it! ! It's is a must read.

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Way to look at what responsibility is.

I read and listened to the book. very insightful. you only own your will. that is what you can control. nothing else.

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Great Book! Highly recommended!

I so enjoyed this book that I didn't want it to end. I hope and pray that I retain and am able to do what I learned from it.

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Outstanding!

This book's teachings provided the link that I have been missing for many years. The principles are solid, profound and very clear. DD

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The real story behind the psychobabble

This would seem to be a very helpful book, but it is not, according to "Taken Into Custody" by Stephen Baskerville that gives us a bigger picture into the psychobabble covering up what is really taking place at newlife.com. Churches That Abuse by Enroth is another good indicator of this psychobabble. The private lives of me and all mine has no place in gov't control that has taken on this role by force. But, they can't hurt you if you don't let them. Me and all mine settle all our disputes privately and with the private bill of rights that protects us from such gov't agency tyranny. Buyer beware!!!!!

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Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This is a practical book about taking ownership for your life, your circumstances and identifying excuses and obstacles you might be creating to keep yourself stuck. The book offers valuable insight and good solutions for identifying failures and limiting beliefs and turning them into valuable experience you can use to learn from and apply towards a better future. I really enjoyed this book. I listened to it on audible, but will probably purchase the kindle edition as well to make highlights for future reference.

What was one of the most memorable moments of It's Not My Fault?

I like the examples of excuses they offered. It gave practical insight that is often overlooked or by passed.

What about John Townsend and Henry Cloud ’s performance did you like?

I like the sound of his voice. Clear and authentic.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

I like the last chapter summary.

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I really appreciate that they put so much good information in the book and that it is practical, down to earth and non-judgmental. They offer real insight and hope to those wishing to improve their lives and relationships and it's all doable.

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Healing journey for anyone

God's Word is the Truth and Divinely inspired. The truth of Gods Word and his vision for your life is explained in this book.

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Wish I would have found this book a long time ago

This book was extremely helpful and seeing where I'm stuck in life, and where I've been stuck in life or just needed motivation. would recommend this book to anybody who has codependent issues, bad relationship issues (can't seem to find the Right one), or is having issues with coworkers. Excellent excellent book.

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Listened twice this weekend!

I listened to the audio version twice this wknd and it was very helpful. I'm excited to read the book now and to journal along with it. Thank you for covering so many topics in one book. Life is beautifully complex, so the variation of situations covered herein are relatable, practical and helpful!