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Publisher's Summary

A fun and funny guide to dating from the New York Times best-selling authors of It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken and He's Just Not That Into You.

Why does dating have to be so hard? It doesn’t! Stop trying to out-game the system and relax. It's Just a Fucking Date presents the tools, not the rules, for bringing back the art of the date. The ordeals of 21st-century dating, from online dating and hooking up to pulling the plug when it isn’t working, will soon be easy to navigate. With tips to define what is and isn’t a date, how to get asked out, and setting your own dating standards, dating won’t seem old-fashioned, it will be fun. Best-selling authors Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola return to the minefield of modern relationships with this revised and updated edition.

©2013 Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola (P)2013 Audible Inc.

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"The book is jam-packed with straight-talking tips on how to bag your man, and quite frankly, we can’t put it down." (The Sun)

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Good book, but for ladies only!

Whether it was a lack of me reading or understanding, I purchased this audiobook and jumped in. While it's interesting, it's extremely geared towards helping women - men won't get nearly as much of a benefit from the book, but it still has some entertaining ideas and it is well read.

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  • jk888
  • 888dragons
  • 07-04-14

if you read one book about dating, choose this one

I have read over and over all of Greg and Amira's books - in fact I read It's Called a Break-Up Because It's Broken so many times I had to replace it. This book has pointed out in the nicest of ways what I have been doing to de-rail my own relationships. I am two months into dating the most remarkable man I have ever met in my life (I am 49) and I have already stopped myself from repeating old bad patterns because of this book. If we get married, I am inviting Greg and Amira to my wedding.

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Profound! Entertaining! Life-changing! Funny!

Would you listen to It's Just a F***ing Date again? Why?

I've listened over and over again to ensure their message, "It's Just a f**ing Date" is tattooed on my brain. Greg and Amira hilariously explain and model every step a gal should take to that right man. Their easy methods for nudging a man into a pursuer come to life especially when Amira acts them out. Greg, her husband, knows how guys really think. He also knows how women tend to idealize love and give into their emotions too quickly freaking men out. He sincerely wants us to act in our own best interest and speaks as if he is an older wiser loving brother. Anyway, men are meant to pursue. This book teaches how to light the trail for the right man to catch us.

What other book might you compare It's Just a F***ing Date to and why?

Their style is unique and magical as they switch narration back and forth making it feel like a personal conversation. It compares in tone to "Why Your Not Married Yet," and "You Are A Badass."

What does Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

If I had just read this book, I'd miss the personable real tone that brings their message to life.

What did you learn from It's Just a F***ing Date that you would use in your daily life?

I've already used the lessons to improve my life. I've come away renewed and clear about who I am on my dating journey and how to make sure I end up with a great guy who wants a great relationship with me. I now know to never settle for a 'hang-out" with a guy but how to easily get asked out while keeping my worth in tact. Just yesterday, I controlled an urge to send an emotional text. It wasn't easy because I was pretty upset, but the amazing thing is: today I was rewarded. He contacted me and was none the wiser that I had had a mini break-down over my own personalizing perception of really- nothing. I'm also proud of pulling myself out of that emotional pit by following the wisdom in this book.

Any additional comments?

I hope that this message is heard by all especially my daughter.Thank you Greg and Amira! You really get it. Thank you.

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  • saba
  • North TX USA
  • 02-16-17

I really enjoyed this guide to getting back out there

I would recommend this to people who are in the midst of struggling with the success of their current dating life, as well those, like me, venturing back out into the social world after an extremely long absence. The authors' message delivery was entertaining & based in a common sense language I appreciated.

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  • Cris5y
  • UPLAND, CA, United States
  • 10-19-16

Another good one

Absolutely loved it. My favorite quote of the book:

"Asking girls out is f-ing terrifying! But since women have periods and give birth, maybe we should have the responsibility of doing ONE thing that's hard."

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Target audience is women

I really wish the publisher summary made it more clear that this book was targeted toward women. having Amiira continually refer to me as "we" (to include me in the larger female population) and Greg calling me "sister" got a bit aggravating after the first few chapters. Not too many universal principles presented here... pretty disappointed from a male standpoint for me but females (and feminine gay males) would find it helpful. And Greg is not nearly as funny as he thinks he is...

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  • Lorian
  • Yucaipa, CA, United States
  • 11-22-15

Informative and entertaining

I enjoyed this book. As someone who is about to enter the dating scene after not having dated for a long time, it is nice to know both what current standards of behavior are and better ways to get what you want out of dating. Useful tips, enlightening stories and good narration make this book a great option for anyone dating or anyone who likes dating stories. It is a straightforward, no nonsense and goal oriented approach to dating. Very good!

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Love the shit out of this book!

When he said he was in recovery, I was slammed. This couple would be my buddies if I met them.

No bullshit, just makes sense. Reaffirms what I should have known. I dropped my deal breakers, and am more open to possibilities without the stigma.

Bless you both.
I needed to hear this and will listen to it several times... Because I like to make mistakes several times so I need to counteract myself...lol!!!

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Practical tips

loved their practical approach to the dating world.. im going to listen to this all over again.. and i want to test it out...😊

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I recommend this book

Yes this is worth the time to listen to this book! I recommend that all single women listen to this book.

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  • Sara
  • 08-27-16

Every woman should listen to/read!

Would you consider the audio edition of It's Just a F***ing Date to be better than the print version?

I never read the book, just had the audio, but I feel listening to the audio was better as it hammered home the points they were making

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Brilliant book and VERY bang on about how women behave and what NOT to do!

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  • 08-14-16

funny and helpful

I liked the humour and the way they managed to keep a loaded topic quite light. good book.

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  • Hev
  • 06-03-16

Funny, informative, inspiring

What a great double act! Greg and Amiira are a hoot! And it's clear that they know what they are talking about.
When they read some of the letters that they've received, I was initially a bit judgemental. Like, how could people think/behave like that?! It's just a date, after all. Aaaannnd then how many times did I suddenly recall that it was something that I'd done? Let's just say, once or twice, shall we? Thankfully, G&A shared their down to earth advice with such warmth and humour and "we've been there, too", that any self criticism was swiftly averted.
Having listened to this book, I feel that I now have valuable new insights and perspectives for future dates.