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Insecure in Love Audiobook

Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It

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Publisher's Summary

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities, but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.

In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way - rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialogue between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.

©2014 Leslie Becker-Phelps (P)2015 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"A godsend for those who unknowingly bring a lot of angst into a relationship." (Library Journal)

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    Corey 06-21-16
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    "Great book!"

    Very therapeutic researched advice that helped me a lot in dealing with an avoidant female. Couldn't recommend this book enough for anyone.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Danika 01-28-17
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    "Excellent book"

    This book really helped me understand why I reacted certain ways in past relationships AND it has great exercises to help move toward a more secure way of thinking. If you've ever asked yourself, "Why did I do that?", or if you've ever felt you didn't deserve to be loved this is a must read.

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    shandra518 08-29-17
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    "great read"

    Definitely helpful for learning how to manage my own emotions and feelings. definitely recommend to others who want to have more self control and want to feel like they are empowered.

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    Amazon Customer 03-12-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Excellent Book"

    So much great and useful information in this book. The exercises are very helpful in healing your heart and creating more secure attachments.

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    William Rodgers 12-28-16 Member Since 2015
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    "This offers hope"

    If you have difficulty with relationships or pervasive patterns of problems in relationships, listen to the book. Twice preferably.

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    R+G=N&EJ 09-06-16
    R+G=N&EJ 09-06-16
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    "Need a companion workbook or the written text."

    Lots of excellent suggested self work but hard to stop what your doing when listening to audio Will be purchasing the written book and / or workbook if available

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    erika 02-08-16
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    "attachment theory"

    good book i learned a lot, it has a lot of ideas mirroring "attached" which i recommend reading first

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    Lindsey M. Meyers 09-20-17
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    "Ok material"

    This book was ok and gave some very general advice on how to work on ibut I became even less impressed when I read Love Sense by Susan Johnson (pioneer of emotionally focused therapy, echo I would give 5 stars). For someone who is looking for literature about attachment Theory and healing unhealthy attachment patterns there are better books. Insecure in love is not bad, just not worth your time in light of the other resources out there.

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    "Excellent read"

    I really enjoyed the book and was surprised at how much it knew about my anxiously attached behaviors. If you want to read something that will give you tools to get out of the anxious cycle you are and and have a healthy lasting relationship, buy this book.

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    Katie Konner North Charleston, SC 08-07-17
    Katie Konner North Charleston, SC 08-07-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Best Resource For Relationships Yet."
    Would you listen to Insecure in Love again? Why?

    Yes, I'm about to.


    Any additional comments?

    I'm very aware that I am keeping the self-help industry going. I've been in search of answers to my relationship issues and this is by far the most helpful book I've come across. It is incredibly keen to our feelings, thoughts, and self made prisons. Very good advice that is spelled out clearly and patiently...some of us have very thick heads.

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    "Great relationship insight"

    It really takes two willing partners to build a secured lasting relationship. We have to be willing and accepting of ourselves and the other self.

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    "Excellent self help book"

    Great practical advice for those people who feel insecure in love. Lays out theory in clear concise way and good practical exercises to develop a more secure style of relationship both towards yourself, your significant other and others in general. Highly recommended

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