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How to Raise an Adult Audiobook

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

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Publisher's Summary

A provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood.

In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research; on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers; and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.

Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of 20-somethings - and of special value to parents of teens - this audiobook is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.

Download the accompanying reference guide.

©2015 Julie Lythcott-Haims (P)2015 Macmillan Audio

What the Critics Say

"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure.... A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children." (Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times best sellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well)

"For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, How to Raise an Adult is the right book at the right time." (Daniel H. Pink, author of the New York Times best sellers Drive and A Whole New Mind)

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    Justin 12-16-15
    Justin 12-16-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Sometimes it's okay to preach to the choir"

    I don't necessarily think that everyone who starts reading this book will feel the same. As she mentions, just the fact that we seek out these parental help books, may actually be an indicator that we are worrying too much and over acting or reacting to what we should just recognize as life.

    Before I was even half way through this book, I was already recommending it to family and friends. This was probably the first time reading a parenting related book that didn't try and make me feel guilty for not doing more, but rather feel a little silly for thinking that I should. And understandably so. This was a great illustration of the parenting approach we share, and weren't able to put into words.

    We, as parents, have been repeatedly asked how we got so lucky. We were even told by someone close to us, I thought you were doing things all wrong, but you seemed to have fixed your mistakes. I went ahead sent them a link to this book too, btw.

    This book didn't just give us a pat on the back though. It gave me tangible perspectives and approaches to address the milestones we have not yet reached, resources and advice to provide our child so they can make their own educated decisions and we can focus on our true value as parents and avoid ill fated over involvement.

    8 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Savy shopper Paducah, KY USA 06-02-16
    Savy shopper Paducah, KY USA 06-02-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Target Audience- Upper-Middle Class"

    Most of the book focuses on issues of parenting from the perspective of Upper-Middle Class Americans. Those from working class families will find about half of the book very useful. They will find the other half describing problems of which they will not be able to identify with; or, of which they would love to have.

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    ginger 09-13-16
    ginger 09-13-16 Member Since 2016
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    "A book that should have been a Facebook post"

    By the end of the book you'll be certain of just one thing: the author was a dean at Stanford. She's super proud of that. Beyond that, read the chapter titles and you'll get all the goodness the book. I can't say I disagree with anything she says but the incessant whining about it was unbearable. The near explosive attention this book has received tells me there must be a lot of people who haven't figured this out on their own yet. Perhaps I'm just lucky to have struggled with my young son in our failing education institution and applied my rebellious, counter-culture character to overcoming the BS early on. I have no doubt that there are parents who don't get it. I know many affluent parents that think success is something you purchase for your kids while their teenagers still wet the bed. But the answer is not to return to the 70s, ditch car seats and smoke around our kids. There was a little too much nostalgia pumped into the room for my stomach.
    So, yeah, encourage your kids and let them fail sometimes. Great. Moving on...

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    Dr. Erica L. Wagner 11-02-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Required for parents and higher education stakeholders"

    Best book I've read on parenting and the US complex that has become the standard college admissions process. My daughter is 5 and it was not too early to consider how I will handle the tough issues raised by the author. Brava!

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    "Okay"

    Some good info. If you're an "upper middle class" parent who feels you've only succeeded if your child gets accepted to Harvard, definitely listen.

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    Lisa Wells US 10-28-15
    Lisa Wells US 10-28-15 Member Since 2015

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    "solid advice, even if we don't want to hear it"
    Would you listen to How to Raise an Adult again? Why?

    Yes - to take notes!


    What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Raise an Adult?

    Discussing parenting styles and assessing parenting to date, with my 17 year old as we listened while driving to visit prospective colleges


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    JHG 12-18-16
    JHG 12-18-16 Member Since 2015

    I live in Northern Virginia and listen to audio books every day during my commute and during walks.

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    "Parenting book if you only read one"

    How to raise an adult is a great book. Julie Lythcott-Haims lays out a strong argument that the problem kids are having today is not, not enough parenting, but rather too much parenting. She suggests that raising an adult is the most important thing a parent can do and to do this we need to back off. The approach sounds simple but runs counter to many recent trends. I enjoyed this book and am someone who never, but perhaps should, read parenting books.

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    Maria Mercedes Abdo 07-10-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Excellent advice"

    For someone who isn't raising children in the US it may be hard to relate to the large portion of this book written on the American post-secondary schools.
    Chapters 12 to 18 offered excellent advice and insight. I've already started implementing some of the advice from this book into my parenting techniques and see benefits already! I had no idea my 5 year old was ready for chores, responsibilities, and more independence! Not to mention the amazing things that have come form him since asking critical thinking questions.
    A great read, would recommend to any and all.

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    "Eye opening!!"

    It caused me to reflect as a parent on how I am raising my son and how I was raised.

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    Ace Mountain View, CA 06-30-17
    Ace Mountain View, CA 06-30-17 Member Since 2016
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    "From one overprotective Silicon Valley mom to another"

    Apparently parents are super overprotective in Silicon Valley, worried about their preschoolers positioning themselves for future admission into Stanford. This book is an exhaustive rip on those people's behavior, mixed with sympathetic confessions from the author that she too is guilty as charged. I'm a pretty laid back dad, not an anxious mom that makes sure my kid's crayon set contains all primary colors sorted from dark to light or something crazy like that... This book simply did not relate to me, a laid back father looking for practical tips.

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