How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful

By: Linda J. MacDonald

Narrated by: Tamara Marston

Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins

Publisher's summary

Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.

It would take weeks of therapy to learn what Successful Rebuilders know:

• How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs
• Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery
• Fifteen essential steps for repair after betrayal
• Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers"
• Ways to undo the damage from your lies
• The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours)
• The difference between helpful and harmful apologies
• How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity

Download the accompanying reference guide.

©2010 Linda J. MacDonald (P)2013 Podium Publishing

Critic reviews

"I regularly provide copies of Linda's book to my clients who are facing this challenge. Unanimously they report, 'That [book] was very helpful.'" (Earl D. Wilson, PhD., author Steering Clear, and Restoring the Fallen)

"This is the most succinct collection of wisdom for helping the unfaithful that I have seen for couples trying to pick up the pieces of their lives after affairs." (Lance Brown, M.A., Minister of Care, Chapel Hill Presbyterian)

The topic speaks for itself

I read this book as the hurt spouse to see if these are things I'd like to hear from my spouse and it was very good advice. I needed to know if I had unreasonable expectations from him. I recommend this for anyone dealing with this topic to get it sooner than later. Maybe even before the bomb drops to avoid as much damage as possible from the get go. If you did wrong this is a good start to try and pick up the broken pieces.

Become a Rebuilder

Excellent Book ! Highly Recommendable if you are looking to mend your mistakes plus resolve your own issues in a marriage!

Thank you! I needed to read this.

Excellent work in illustrating the devastating results of betrayal, and how it affects the betrayed spouse. It helped me get into my wife's shoes in how she is feeling about what I have done. I will be listening to this again and again. Thank you so much.

Very helpful!!

Great advice, great narrator. Would recommend for anyone who is currently in a relationship outside their marriage. Wish I had

An ESSENTIAL read for any infidelity situation

This book holds nearly all the keys to healing after infidelity, beginning to restore the marriage, rebuilding joy, intimacy, trust, and security. If you combine this book with committing to quality professional help for your marriage, you will most likely be on the path to truly saving your marriage.

I am a therapist and affair recovery specialist. I will be using this book in my practice.

Great practical application

Very straight and to the point. I believe if the unfaithful follow these guidelines and instructions, both sides can heal.

Good info

The author teaches you a ton of good ideas in a very short period of time. Well worth the read if you care about your partner.

Great information to help rebuild trust, highly recommended.

As the injured spouse I found this book very helpful in my quest to forgive. Many of the ideas outlined in the book were concepts that I had tried to get my spouse to understand. He however remained defensive and considered my statements and theories as a personal attack. It was helpful to learn that My feelings and desires for truth and honesty are valid. It was helpful for my spouse to hear these same suggestions from someone that was not me. I enjoyed the perceived mental shift and changes I saw in my spouse upon listening to these wise suggestions. It seemed to help bring clarity and understanding to my spouse. I certainly recommend this book to those facing the challenges of infidelity in their relationship.

Good simple advice to begin the healing process.

As the Hurt partner, I read this book and found it to be spot on with everything I've been feeling and needing. I will be giving it to my spouse in hopes he will read it and fully understand what it will take to move through this. This is a simple guide and I think if these suggestions are paired with counseling and additional in-depth books and exercises, there may be a chance of reconciliation.

This book is a great guide for the cheating spouse

This book is spot on and a great guide for a cheating spouse. it is also a tremendous help for the betrayed spouse because it confirms how the betrayed is feeling and assures them their views, feelings , and desires are legitimate. If a cheating spouse follow these guidelines they will increase their odds of their marriage surviving the affair. This book is a must read. I listebed to the audible in 2.5 hours.