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I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum.

I was in lousy shape.

I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain.

I didn't talk to women I was interested in.

I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day.

I played video games instead.

I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn't do, and what I did do wasn't enough.

Then, I became an imperfectionist.

Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous "Hi" ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more.

I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which is being translated into a dozen languages.

I found I could mess up and still win.

Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

While the freedom of imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives, they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

©2015 Stephen Guise (P)2015 Stephen Guise

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Where does How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is one of the most life-changing books I have ever read and listened to and read and listened to. I'm guessing it would impact anyone's life in a very positive manner, if taken to heart. Guise takes aim at perfectionism in an honest, engaging way and the wonderful advice is easily applied. Guise has a lot of down-home clarity and he impresses me with his humility and transparency regarding his own struggles with perfectionism. I highly recommend it.

What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

The discussion of analog vs. binary ways of evaluating our efforts was particularly helpful.

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

I found it hard to believe he is not Stephen Guise! Often when listening to recordings of books, I think the narrator is not understanding what he is reading; Penz reads it like he wrote it! He has a great voice and manner of speaking.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Both - it was funny and made me laugh at the author and my own foolishness, but I also felt sad as I realized that I had created so much suffering for myself and others with my perfectionism, and that I had so little appreciated my own efforts, just because they were imperfect.

Any additional comments?

A must read for a healthy, productive life.

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A refreshing new way of pursuing achievement

I think the subtitle is very descriptive of the book: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism.

The narration was excellent also.

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Good, but not perfect. ;-)

It has some really good ideas, ones that I will work on. But, in trying to cover helpful tips fur all of the types of perfectionism, there were only a few concepts that were directly applicable to my situation.

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love it

absolute gold.

acute perfectionist.

in recovery!

encouraging, with practical actionable concise advice.

going to listen to "mini habits" now...

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  • Jp
  • 01-25-17

Helpful

As someone who has only recently realized that perfectionism is causing a lot of issues in my life, this book has been very helpful in giving me some insight and understanding as well as concrete solutions to counteract this detrimental way of thinking.

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Disappointing

What was most disappointing about Stephen Guise’s story?

The author uses the same few examples over and over. Unfortunately, these examples were limited in scope as I believe all or at least the great majority were only based on one person (the author himself). While absolutely valid examples, I was looking for a wider range that would be more applicable.

How could the performance have been better?

The author slips into a condescending/shaming voice when referring to his past perfectionistic perspective. I found this quite sad and discouraging. It made me feel sad that he seemed to be shaming his "past self" rather than having empathy for himself as he looked back on his own story.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Sadness & Disappointment

Any additional comments?

The author seems as though he may have more to offer, as he continues through his own journey.

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Awesome theme. But it should be shorter.

I think there were too many explanation and examples. some are nice but too many is exhausting. the imperfectionists and the explanation of it hits me in my heart brain. I am an imperfectionist. but now I have some tools to be an imperfectionist.

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Excellent book. Narration could improve.

Love the content. I find the narration annoying at places where the narrator sounds too cheerful when it is not required and whiny when describing the challenges with waking up in the morning.

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Thoughtful and effective

I recently thought to myself, I don't want to keep reading books, watching videos, or going to seminars around learning how to overcome a perfectionist mindset. I feel like this is the last book I read on this topic. This is a low barrier of entry exercise focusing on practicing. What's in here is the only thing I really need to do. Sure I may read or do other things to add slightly different perspectives, however I do not need to search for a Magic Bullet anymore.

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Sales pitch for Mini-Habits

There were a few good tips and ideas in this book but the most I got out of it was to purchase his first book, Mini-Habits.

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  • Jonathan
  • 03-09-16

Perfect for perfectionists

After so many other books have failed to pinpoint my problem this one just worked!
It uses a great mix of charming analogy and scientific evidence to point out where problems lie and sets out so many great techniques to move forward in a lasting way!

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  • Bob
  • 10-11-15

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What did you like most about How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

I first read this book on Kindle and while I understood it intectually, it didn't motivate me to act differently. The Audible version is somehow (for me at least) easier to internalise.

What other book might you compare How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism to, and why?

Buddhism for Busy People. Not for the religious aspects, but for the recommendations on taking charge of your own life.

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

I found the narration very engaging.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I never feel compelled to consume any audio books in one sitting. I completed it in around 3 days, with time to digest the content between listens.

Any additional comments?

I just downloaded Mini Habits by the same author (I already have it in Kindle format) to see if that is also more compelling as an audio book.

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  • bebekwala
  • 05-17-18

Excellent

The best and most useful book I've read (well, listened to i suppose) on this subject so far... ..and over the years that's been quite a few. I think the source if the solution to counter-acting procrastination and perfectionism is herein (at least for myself). It gets to many of the real reasons and challenges, and provides solutions that are manageable and realistic rather than just more nonesense about simply finding a way to become more motivated. It's taught me much about myself, why I procrastinate and what type of perfectionist I am. The enduring and frustrating mystery of my own internal workings seems markedly unmysterious now. The narration is fantastic and keeps things easy-listenjng on occasions when the amount of info, concepts and ideas becomes condensed. However, the book is written well and generally 'to the point' so this isn't too often.

I know I'll be referring back to this book for on a regular basis. It very easily makes it inyo my personal top 5 best/most useful books I've had from Audible over the years. Great content - I'm glad I gave it a go : )

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-09-18

Highly recommended

Packed full of suggestions on how to put the techniques discussed into use in your day to day life.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 02-16-18

Okay but lives up to its title

some good ideas here, but needs a good edit to lose some of the repetition, which began to feel patronising.

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  • Chris Lunn
  • 01-20-18

Remarkable concept must read!

In a world where we are told the only the best will do it is all to often we feel inadequate in our own actions. How to be and Imperfectionist sets the bar for everyone to achieve with a specific and new mind set. One of the best books I’ve listened to in years!

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  • Dan
  • 09-20-17

Brilliant book. Easy to listen to aswell.

I've already read the physical book, but really wanted to read it again. Listening to it via Audible is easy, and great for the car. Applying the ideas on this book has genuinely changed my life and I really wanted a refresher. I listen to about 10 mins a day, and this book works really well for that.

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  • B Gee
  • 08-10-17

Problem Solved

This has to be the best book ever. Like Stephen I have toiled around self help books for years now and everything I have tried only gave me short term success and I always seemed to hit a brick. Not that the contents of those books are not impactful but I think Stephen has tackled the fundamental issue most self help books fail. That is genius. This has revitalised my life and this review is my first step into writing my own book to add my quota to the good body of work in helping people build good habits. I hope to work with Stephen in the nearest future.

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  • Zhangeldy Kaupynbayev
  • 07-11-17

Very good

Very straightforward and concise. Very well written and narrated. Easy to understand and mind changing. Thank you.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 06-18-17

Really insightful

I seem to get this idea...But if I have not it does not matter because I am a imperfectionist now...

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  • Sharna
  • 03-07-18

Incredible!

I've listened to this twice so far and will continue to re-listen again and again

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  • Luke Kent
  • 01-10-17

fantastic!

amazing book. great narration! practical wisdom I have already started applying. just brilliant!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-27-15

Imperfectly Perfectly great!<br />

I have read the book. And now I plan to listen to it a second time. It is sweetly simple advice to life. This is my 5th time listening to iit. IT IS SIMPLY AMAZING!:) 6th time listening!