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Getting the Love You Want Audiobook

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: 20th Anniversary Edition

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Publisher's Summary

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions, allowing listeners of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

©2008 Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.; (P)2008 Macmillan Audio

What the Critics Say

"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)

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    Awatt Albany, Oregon 06-24-17
    Awatt Albany, Oregon 06-24-17
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    "Over-dramatic narration proved unbearable"
    How did the narrator detract from the book?

    I will have to find time to read this book because while the content is engaging and extremely useful, the narration was distracting to the point that I just couldn't take the mismatch with the material any longer and gave up. Garrett's style may fit the Westerns he usually narrates, but it kept making me think of car-chow commercials, and I couldn't concentrate on the principles he was bulldozing through. I hope Audible, and/or the Hendrix's, will try to find a more suited narrator who A) cares more about the material, and B) who has the nuanced capacity to take the listeners through the varied emotional and psychological territory of the book.


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    Elijah Lynn New Jersey 06-08-17
    Elijah Lynn New Jersey 06-08-17
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    "The hired actor is not authentic"
    Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Jack Garrett?

    The author, I always want the author, they are the most authentic. Authenticity is key for a story to be believable.


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    Hard to listen to. Sounds like I am listening to an actor who does move trailers... for 10 hours!!!

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    Chickakuwakuah 06-09-16
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    "Easily in Top 5 of most effective Self Help books"

    One of very few books that I think literally everyone should read. The style, to me, was like a cross between King, Warrior, Magician, Lover and How to Make Friends and Influence People. It had a great deal of quality psychology information that is relatable to a wide audience as well as lots of stories with the same affect. It will be easy for most people to relate to and to understand. I fucking loved it. It's helped me understand how to do as it says and get the love I want. All of my relationships are better for it, and all other areas of performance in my life have improved because of this book. I'm already listening a second time.

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    JEANETTE Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15
    JEANETTE Phoenix, AZ 09-22-15

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    "This Book | The Workbook Improved My Communication Immensely!"

    I saw an interview w/ Alanis Morissette,
    Singer-songwriter on Oprah and felt so connected to her story. She and Oprah highly recommended this book/workshop. After reading all Harville's books, and listening to this audiobook three times, I'm convinced the workbook & workshops will change me in my relationships. My boyfriend was triggered by the idea of a workbook, but each week it gets easier as we do the work. I find myself reading & listening when my relationships aren't feeling right and I always discover it's me who needs todo the work. I absolutely love this book as well as all the books Harville and his wife have written together. Imago has provided me and my partner with a rich understanding how Our dialogue changes reactionary behaviors. As I have been working toward healing from childhood traumas, this book has helped me understand my emotional triggers and that running away from relationships when I'm triggered isn't the answer when I have a partner willing to work through my pain. The difficulty this book doesn't go into is understanding how to relate to a partner who denies any childhood pain. He claims his parents were wonderful and he's always felt loved and safe; whereas I feel the opposite. It's a struggle for him to understand my emotional triggers. I am; however, strengthened and enlightened knowing I can have beautiful and loving relationships if I'm willing to do this IMAGO work.

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    Heidi Bakersfield, Ca, United States 08-27-13
    Heidi Bakersfield, Ca, United States 08-27-13 Member Since 2013
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    "Some helpful advice"

    This book does have some helpful advice amongst a lot of information I feel that was not helpful and could of been left out. Would suggest for both people in the relationship to read it for maximum benefit .

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    mpb new york city 06-25-13
    mpb new york city 06-25-13 Member Since 2010
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    "Very good insight into relationships"
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    Very good insight into relationships but a little too dramatic. There are many tricks that will help any relationship to get better however it gets to a point where it is way to deep, too dramatic and almost painful to hear.


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    Mary Robins 07-23-17
    Mary Robins 07-23-17 Member Since 2012
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    "Started the work already!"

    This book is very insightful. I am ready to begin the work with my husband. It is scary, but I want and love this man. I want us to go the distance. I can see and understand so much more since reading this book. I really love that you and your wife practice what you preach and you reveal personal information/stories about you and your relationship.

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    Nelle nell 04-23-17
    Nelle nell 04-23-17 Member Since 2016
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    "very helpful and insightful"

    it's very clear and explains why we pick the mates we do and how we can utilize our mates to help us heal childhood wounds

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    Galia Ismakova 03-11-17 Member Since 2016

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    "Good marriage renewal book"

    very systematic way of looking at marriage renewal with the help of therapy. some exercises appear to be difficult , especially if other partner is unwilling, not motivatef

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    Carolina Villamizar 02-23-17

    What a wonderful world!

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    "a must read!"

    Divorce, unhappiness, failure, what did happen in my life? what did happen to me to us? this book helped me so much to understand the whole purpose of being in a relationship. It is a wonderful well written guide to be better at loving and accepting the love from someone. I wish I had read this book before, but helped in my healing process, gave me reasons to forgive and to understand many things. Totally worth to read it! totally worth to keep it!

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