Ep. 7: Tell Me I'm Not Alone

By: Esther Perel

Narrated by: Esther Perel

Length: 40 mins

Publisher's summary

[Contains mature themes] A young family, a 16-year age difference, and a wife who used an extra-marital relationship to find independence. They’ve made the choice to forgive and rebuild, but that doesn’t wipe away the pain of the betrayal. Esther coaches them through how to approach the emotional repercussions of the affair. .

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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I’m an Empath, and yet I felt no empathy for the Husband

Perhaps my review says more about me than about him or the episode. Probably even.

I felt a sense of self-entitlement in him, that her adoration of him is something he takes for granted. I hope for their family’s sake he can figure it out.

I am not Alone

Desire Love Intimacy Hugs, You are ok because I am here. Pleasure and Connection ....a Human Need.

Helpful

I found this, as well as many other Esther Perel sessions to hold a Great message!

She is so wise

There is so much captivating content. Do much to apply to one’s own life

Her compassionate wisdom is such an example for how to find a way that both partners feel fed by

WOW!

Although I have not had an affair this man sounds like my husband who was abandoned by his mother when he was younger and although she still alive he still has anger and resentment towards her. He also uses sex to feel close and now I am realizing that he needs to be held more then sex! Esther is amazing what a God send!

Writing the same review of the whole set of these

So I'm not going to review each of these individually. They're all a great listen and I can't recommend one over the others. If you're in a place in your relationship where you're not happy and looking for steps you could take these are a great place to start. Esther does one-off sessions with these people and helps these see what is going on, and what they can do to change things. You don't have to be going through the exact same scenario to see some common threads, and find bits and pieces that will be helpful to you.

I'm going to leave the same review for each of these as you should really listen to all of them, rather than trying to pick and choose which you might find relevant.

Healing after infidelity

Any additional comments?

Perel helped the couple rewrite their script with a beautiful message of healing, empathy, and trust. I loved her point about understanding with accountability -- that 1 culpability and 2 understanding the motivation for the affair are both indispensable. This was an amazing mediation. I'm so glad I listened.

Timely and poignant

So touching and concise. The couple got down to brass tacks. Deeper emotional wounding happening before affair; examination of own life messages. She's an excellent counselor!

I need empathy.

Another great recording by Esther. I cried as I heard Esther breaking through his anger and finding his vulnerability enough to finally be able to ask for what he DID want. Though he didn't know it was empathy it became clear that it was.
In my coaching practice this is often the piece missing in my clients communication tool box.
Linda
awakeningslifecoaching.ca

Excellent - Overall

Another fantastic podcast. The only trouble is the beginning recordings (over the phone, I think) were really difficult to understand and when you throw in the wife's accent, I found that I couldn't understand what was being said. Once in the session it was better and you could put the missing beginning together.