• Ep. 6: You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married

  • By: Esther Perel
  • Length: 43 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (379 ratings)

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Ep. 6: You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married

By: Esther Perel
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[Contains Mature Themes] Free for a limited time to Audible members. They’ve been together for more than a decade, but this isn’t the first time they’ve separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can’t break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently.
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Best episode so far!

This is the most relatable episode I’ve heard so far! Great performances, great story! Thank you!

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These podcasts are AMAZING!

Gosh! These sessions are opening my mind to how marriages go soooo horribly wrong even when 2 people really want it to go right! the information here is GOLD!!! Thank you Esther.

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OMG this one is amazing!

Speaks exactly to a relationship of mine that just blew up. All of the tumultuous fighting.

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Good grief!

Argument for the sake of argument! He prefers his argument and his right to argue over connection with his mate.

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Depressing and banal

As soon as the lady said she had married her husband because he was broken and she wanted to fix him, I thought “Game Over.” Slightly whiny self-absorbed people rehearse their petty domestic antagonisms, without humor or affection.
No glimmers of insight or hope here, except to realize how tedious these stuck-in-a-broken-marriage grievances truly are.

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Toxic and mercurial

That these 2 are separated and seeing other people is actually the least of their problems. Hearing the patterns of habitual toxicity by both people here made this the most pessimistic episode from either season of Where Should We Begin. Nothing was revealed about the couple's post-therapy future but I just can't imagine it having ended well. They couldn't even keep from attacking under the best possible circumstances.

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This is my life

This is my favorite episode by far and has resonated more with me than any other. I love this entire series and I feel like it is helping me learn and grow so much. I don’t know what it is but hearing about other people facing the same problems makes me feel like it is more possible to manage my own. Thank you Esther Perel, Audible and the couples for sharing this with all of us!

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Good self-critique of a therapist's own session!

I didn't enjoy the couple's story as much as some of the others, but the author's commentary on things she wished in retrospect that she had done differently was very interesting!

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