Ep. 4: The Addict

By: Esther Perel

Narrated by: Esther Perel

Length: 39 mins

Publisher's summary

[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other's experiences.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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paradigm shift

wow... what a powerful way to look at infidelity - coping mechanism. i have seen man repeating adulter even they were happy at home...but for sure they were unhappy with themselves.

Amazing

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

As a never had a relationship 20-something, who has never been in a sexual relationship, I found all of the episodes enlightening. It has helped me to see that not all romantic relationships are equal; if one has not dealt with their demons it can invade the relationship. These audible originals are helping me to see that all relationships begin with communication. It's amazing!

What was one of the most memorable moments of Ep. 4: The Addict?

A memorable moment of this episode is when the husband admitted that he had been living a lie for 41 years.

What does the narrator bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

The voices is what the narrator brings the story to life. When reading a book, I construct my own ideas, voices, and characters, that I see. With the individuals talking, I get to hear their voices and understand their pain.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Ep. 4: The Addict?

The insight for is that the adage, "To thine own self be true" is very real and living a lie, can destroy a family. It sounded like his wife and children, fell in love with someone who was not their true self. It's nice to know that I am in therapy struggling with being true to myself, which is a form of self love. The sooner I can come to that place of self-acceptance, the happier and more satisfied my life will be.

Beautiful, it resembles my life so closely.

After having a similar upbringing, I find myself struggling with a different addiction, but nevertheless, the damage was done. I wish I could say my marriage was saved, but it wasn't.

Explains so much

Hard to hear, but made so many. family behaviors real and explicable for me. Important listen.

I love Esther

Relationships are complicated. I really hope they make it through and he is able to heal and deal with his issues.

Roller Coaster

This unfolds and goes up and down so crazy. I love the way things slowly transform to bring things to light and make them more visible to each person and the deeper reasons behind every action or occurrence.

Part 4

Even though these audio sessions are short they are definitely worth listening to. Everyone can benefit from learning tips on how to improve communication and relationship skills. This session is about a MF couple who has been married for nearly 40 years & the struggles of having to deal with sex addiction. The session is about communication not how to deal with the addiction. I give a lot of kudos to the wife for staying with her husband after discovering decades of infidelity. I would like to think that I too would try to save the marriage after so many years. This couple has a long road ahead of them but it is very obvious that they still care very dearly for one another.

So many are going through this.

things to do in the couple for in enlightening the rest of the world, it takes special people to help others in this manner.

hooked on this series

this was a pleasant surprise. the sessions have given me more insight into relationships and the dynamics between couples.

WOW

The emotions are palpable, and contagious. Esther is very knowledgeable and engaging. Prepare for a journey into the romantic lives of real people that will leave you enlightened and kin to other humans.