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[Contains mature themes] They’re grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other's experiences.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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Brutally Honest

Holy sh*t this one was hard to listen to. I am in awe of this couple. Their relationship has been so badly damaged, and yet they are able to keep sight of the parts of it which are worth holding on to, and to try to fight for those parts and rebuild. I think to myself that I would not have the fortitude to even attempt to work my way through something like this, and yet Esther Perel manages to guide these people toward a level of compassion that is deeper than most people's pride would allow.

As I listen to the session unfold my own instinctual anger, outrage, and sympathetic pain begin to give way to empathy and humanity, and I start to ask questions:
-What does it take to be the kind of person who is willing to even try to forgive a betrayal like this?
-How do you hold onto the conviction that the love in a relationship is real despite actions that seem to invalidate that love?
-If someone does not behave this way out of a desire to destroy, then what kind of trauma can cause them to act like that?
-How do you work up the nerve to start taking responsibility for hurting another human being so terribly?
-How do you lean on your best friend for help when they are the very person who is causing your pain?
-How do you stand up to criticism from your friends and family for attempting to salvage your relationship instead of walking away?

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Exelent!

Major point here Ester points out, and prime example of how a good therapist MUST suspend all opinion and judgement initially. While many of us would personally think "leave him", and "boy, bye!" That is the worst friends and family can do is judge her for her decision to stay. Too many people have TOO MUCH to say about problems in someone else's marriage. A woman should not be condemned for staying regardless of what you might have done, or even your personal opinion about it. Women have a choice and they made it. You don't have to agree or condone it. But, you have NO right to judge it either. If you really care, you will back off and let them work through it, not make them feel bad or even worse after such a huge betrayal. They've already been brought low, you bringing them lower certainly doesn't add anything positive to an already difficult situation. And, really, that goes for men and women. But, to judge a woman's ability to make decisions, do a job, be a good role model, whatever based on her decision to stay with a partner who has cheated is rediculous! And, judging them says more about the judges than the one betrayed.

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I'm addicted.....

....to this series. Esther Is brilliantly insightful. I thought the one-time sessions would leave me with a cliffhanger, but at the end, I always think "I got it!" Well done.

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I want more of this profound work!

These recordings are profound on so many levels. What a gift for anyone in relationship, especially long term, and anyone just wanting to look into those ways we all have room for improvement in loving others and ourselves. Thank you!

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Need a little backstory

Would have liked to know if he confessed or got caught I suspect He only admitted and is in counseling because he got caught . He is so selfish and self absorbed.

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Very emotional

Very thought provoking session. I thought the therapist did an amazing job working with this couple who had to deal with one of the toughest things: long term sex addiction/infidelity of one of the partners. I greatly enjoyed listening to it

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Roller Coaster

This unfolds and goes up and down so crazy. I love the way things slowly transform to bring things to light and make them more visible to each person and the deeper reasons behind every action or occurrence.

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Fascinatingly Educational

Learning about people living “dual” lives and how one can be a “good” person with a very deep disease that can be forgiven.

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paradigm shift

wow... what a powerful way to look at infidelity - coping mechanism. i have seen man repeating adulter even they were happy at home...but for sure they were unhappy with themselves.

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Therapist is overextending herself

Stopped listening due to the therapist not remaining impartial and going in the attack against the husband and disowning what happened to him without him asking things to happen to him.

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  • Michelle
  • 08-10-17

Brave souls

Wow, admiration for you both to want to still stay together and work through this. Sounds like you have so much to protect and save. True healing lies within deep work like this. Blessings to you both x

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  • Mexico Rosel
  • 07-22-17

Helpful, healing

I feel the dialogue could have been more compassionately focused on the husband, and offered him more space to freely, without interruption, explore and share his trauma - as it is this very trauma that has perpetuated the trauma his wife has then suffered, and its free and open expression may even help her in understanding her pain as caused by his trauma-based actions. There are many insightful moments in this recording and I am deeply grateful. Thank you for sharing.

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  • Jacqui Daniels-Gillen
  • 07-10-17

Brave couple

I like the therapist's reassuring tone and appreciation of the subtle complexity of this relationship.

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  • Shane
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Another good human story.

Addictions. Education needed. STAT.

We very much need to look at our societal foundations. Stories like this make it seem that they very much need a renovation.

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  • Heyjools187
  • 07-08-17

How strong a relationship is.

Nobody should have to endure what this couple has. Wonderful listening to Esther give this couple further tools to use to salvage their relationship.

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  • Danielle Treloar
  • 07-07-17

Compassion and connectedness

His taking responsibility for her hurt and learning to just be there for her 💕