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Emotional Vampires Audiobook

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, 2nd Edition

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Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life

Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Best-selling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type - antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids - and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one.

In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

©2014 Albert J. Bernstein (P)2014 McGraw-Hill Education

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    m r 10-04-14
    m r 10-04-14 Member Since 2015
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    This book had some good information. It described people with certain types of personality disorders and how they can be emotional vampires to those around them. It discussed some strategies that may be used when dealing with the different types of vampires. It also touched on some ideas for suggested treatment. It never provided a great deal of detail for those things. Though, it had some good information, is not a book that will provide good insight into why those people are the way they are or how they got to become that way. I was turned off by the author's occasional underlying liberal agenda and use of this book to bash conservatives as well as those who believe in God. He uses frequent examples of people he describes as emotional vampires, based on their fanatical beliefs or political stances and their denial of evolution or liberal political views. He would have you believe those are based on fact rather than emotion. I have read other books that are far better than this one on the topic, but still I learned some things.

    8 of 10 people found this review helpful
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    NN 07-29-15
    NN 07-29-15

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    "Excellent and deep, but with clarity and simplicity."

    I am a mental health professional, but my interest in this book was primarily of a personal nature. Its advice has been invaluable to me both in my personal life as well as in treating my patients. A must read for all mental health professionals and by anyone who has felt drained in personal relationships. Very easy to follow, with clear concepts and memorable examples and analogies.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Amanda Crane 10-26-15
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    "changed my life!"

    loved it! one of the best self-helo books I have read. very practical advice and the author conites to reinforce specific chapters to revisit.

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    Jenn 07-17-17
    Jenn 07-17-17 Member Since 2011
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    "I was searching for a way to deal with others..."
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes, because it is full of information, not only about personality disorders but gives you a script that you can use if you need. I was a psychology major in college... so I thought I understood about personality disorders but I didn't have enough of an understanding to be able to stand my ground when in a challenging situation. (I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, I was already getting out but I wanted a way to do my packing without him driving me away. This book taught me why he did the things he did and then what I could do to stop him controlling me.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of Emotional Vampires?

    There were quite a few, I actually carried a little notebook around as I listened so I could take note of the most applicable information. Still, there is one chapter that I listened to twice in a row... because I saw myself in the description. That brings me to the surprise I found... if the personality disorder is a personal challenge of the readers, he gives advice on how to get help and help yourself.


    What does Tom Perkins bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    I don't know... I rarely have time to sit and read so I've been using audible for, I guess, 10 years or more. I can say that his voice didn't distract me from what he was saying... it was very natural sounding.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Emotional Vampires?

    One pet peeve that I always had was lying. This person I knew suddenly came down with the same exact symptoms as I have (from the stroke I had when I was 17). Doctors did a study on my brain because it is a little odd where the lesion from my stroke made its home. So, there was no way... then she started trying to get me to go out of my way to do things for her because she was "sick". That didn't work out well. But after this book I understand that maybe she made herself sick or somehow made the sickness manifest itself in her need for attention or to be cared for. I still keep my distance but I better understand the "whys" of it all and that helps me let go of some of the anger I felt.


    Any additional comments?

    I believe I have already written a novel. I think I'll leave it at that. :)

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    Savvy Shopper 05-01-17 Member Since 2016
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    Many helpful pieces of information in most chapters. But, don't take the advice to the extreme.

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    Amazon Customer 04-28-17 Listener Since 2010
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    "The narrator really adds to this book!"

    The narrator really adds to this book! I rarely read books twice, I've read this book three times.

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    Philip 04-27-17
    Philip 04-27-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Loads of actionable advice for daily relationships"
    What did you learn from Emotional Vampires that you would use in your daily life?

    Lots of useful tidbits for daily interactions with manipulative people. Useful for the workplace and also for dealing with your passive aggressive (or regular aggressive) girlfriend/boyfriend.


    Any additional comments?

    All the advice can be flipped around to be useful for the manipulator rather than the one being manipulated. So you might get inside their head a bit while you read this.

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    Amazon Customer 02-06-17
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    "This book is good, but it has a identity problem."
    Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

    Yes, but would tell them to proceed with caution.


    Would you be willing to try another book from Albert J. Bernstein? Why or why not?

    Maybe


    Any additional comments?

    I like this book. My problem with it is towards the end. There is more interest in thrusting political views at the listener rather than sticking to the topic at hand. Throughout the book it is repeated time and time again to verify information about a person, however, anything related to science should be taken at face value and not questioned. Last time I checked, scientists are people as well. They too are prone to the very issues discussed in this book.If I wanted the authors opinion on issues such as global warming, I would have asked for it.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    D. Sheff Inkster, Michigan United States 01-24-17
    D. Sheff Inkster, Michigan United States 01-24-17 Member Since 2017

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    "Good insights on difficult people"

    I got some good ideas for dealing with the more difficult people I come in contact with.

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