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Emotional Vampires Audiobook

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, 2nd Edition

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Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life

Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Best-selling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type - antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids - and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one.

In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

©2014 Albert J. Bernstein (P)2014 McGraw-Hill Education

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    m r 10-04-14
    m r 10-04-14 Member Since 2015
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    This book had some good information. It described people with certain types of personality disorders and how they can be emotional vampires to those around them. It discussed some strategies that may be used when dealing with the different types of vampires. It also touched on some ideas for suggested treatment. It never provided a great deal of detail for those things. Though, it had some good information, is not a book that will provide good insight into why those people are the way they are or how they got to become that way. I was turned off by the author's occasional underlying liberal agenda and use of this book to bash conservatives as well as those who believe in God. He uses frequent examples of people he describes as emotional vampires, based on their fanatical beliefs or political stances and their denial of evolution or liberal political views. He would have you believe those are based on fact rather than emotion. I have read other books that are far better than this one on the topic, but still I learned some things.

    8 of 10 people found this review helpful
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    NN 07-29-15
    NN 07-29-15
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    "Excellent and deep, but with clarity and simplicity."

    I am a mental health professional, but my interest in this book was primarily of a personal nature. Its advice has been invaluable to me both in my personal life as well as in treating my patients. A must read for all mental health professionals and by anyone who has felt drained in personal relationships. Very easy to follow, with clear concepts and memorable examples and analogies.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Amanda C 10-26-15
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    "changed my life!"

    loved it! one of the best self-helo books I have read. very practical advice and the author conites to reinforce specific chapters to revisit.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jenn 07-17-17
    Jenn 07-17-17 Member Since 2011
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    "I listened to this a few times and took notes"

    I’ve never been an assertive person, I can sing for hundreds or even thousands of people but don’t care much for the mingling afterward.
    I found myself grieving my mothers death and engaged to a man who after 4 years started showing obvious signs of alcoholism and was just cruel. He was the most cruel when I was devastated. It’s like an injured animal in the wild... the beast comes out. His daughter lied so much about me that child protective services was called on me. But once they interviewed her it was obvious that she was told what to say. Her mother is difficult.
    My son is 22 and has severe, nonverbal autism. I was drowning and was having panic attacks for the first time in my life. I ended up going to the emergency room because I had lost my ability to speak. It was bad. I couldn’t even figure out where to start to get help. So I bought this book and another called Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch. I practiced the tools taught here, then I implemented them. It became apparent that he would crush me when I was already down so I allowed myself a little extra dramatics and when he pounced... I used what I learned. It stopped him and I was able to start the process of healing and getting out. I’m almost moved out and I don’t let tantrums bother me, I pretend he is practicing for a play or something and I leave him to it.
    I have learned about myself also... and am working on getting a therapist as soon as I’m done moving.
    So, you could say I like this book. :)
    It gave me enough information to begin the next chapter in my life.
    Enjoy

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    Savvy Shopper 05-01-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Good points"

    Many helpful pieces of information in most chapters. But, don't take the advice to the extreme.

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    "The narrator really adds to this book!"

    The narrator really adds to this book! I rarely read books twice, I've read this book three times.

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    Philip 04-27-17
    Philip 04-27-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Loads of actionable advice for daily relationships"
    What did you learn from Emotional Vampires that you would use in your daily life?

    Lots of useful tidbits for daily interactions with manipulative people. Useful for the workplace and also for dealing with your passive aggressive (or regular aggressive) girlfriend/boyfriend.


    Any additional comments?

    All the advice can be flipped around to be useful for the manipulator rather than the one being manipulated. So you might get inside their head a bit while you read this.

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    Amazon Customer 02-06-17
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    "This book is good, but it has a identity problem."
    Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

    Yes, but would tell them to proceed with caution.


    Would you be willing to try another book from Albert J. Bernstein? Why or why not?

    Maybe


    Any additional comments?

    I like this book. My problem with it is towards the end. There is more interest in thrusting political views at the listener rather than sticking to the topic at hand. Throughout the book it is repeated time and time again to verify information about a person, however, anything related to science should be taken at face value and not questioned. Last time I checked, scientists are people as well. They too are prone to the very issues discussed in this book.If I wanted the authors opinion on issues such as global warming, I would have asked for it.

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    D. Sheff Inkster, Michigan United States 01-24-17
    D. Sheff Inkster, Michigan United States 01-24-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Good insights on difficult people"

    I got some good ideas for dealing with the more difficult people I come in contact with.

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