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Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare Audiobook

Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

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Publisher's Summary

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

Cover art by Penoaks Publishing at www.penoaks.com.

©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

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    For me this book went where some left off.. what to actually do.. or maybe a better description..what youre thinking you should do.. is correct. Get out, get away. And if you cant now, plan to. Thats where I am, the final planning stages. My parents both narcs and I pretty much married my mothers version of narcissistic behaviors.. my life has been filled with much chaos, zero love and no peace. I am truly alone as I have no other family and my husbands family deemed him the scapegoat Im guessing many years ago. The people I should be able to count on and love me, dont exist. Im ready to go no contact and shut the door on my life in hell. Encouraging words were just what I needed from this, she was right in most therapists dont have a clue in dealing with this sickness and I did experience this ( marital counseling) and it indeed did make things
    worse. Never mind what we discussed about him, the fact that i was completely transparent was the worst thing I could have done. I wish i learned sooner, but now I know.

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    Annette 01-25-17
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    "Excellent resource for victims of Narcissistic Personalities"

    Well researched and drawing upon experience earned through her own and experience this author has filled the gap between descriptions of Narcissistic PD and knowing what the relationships they engage in look like behind closed doors. She also takes away the burden of shame associated with being a victim of a Narcissist. I am a psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience and I learned something from this book and am using it with my patients.

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    Cheryl 03-20-17
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    "Excellent book"

    I am so glad I listened to this book. It answered all of my unanswered questions. I had been in a relationship with a man that I loved deeply. I was constantly walking on egg shells and confused by his behavior before he walked out on me and cut contact with me. It crushed me and broke my heart. I had so many unanswered questions until I listened to "Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare". It has made it absolutely clear to me that I need to have absolutely "NO CONTACT", with this predator ever again. Thank you for writing such a well informed and compassionate book for people that have been through this kind of pain.

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    "life changing"

    This book is forever LIFE CHANGING FOR ME! It was hard to read because of the painful truth attached to it but so necessary. I was at a point of the greatest loss in anyone's life . I knew there was an issue but I didn't realize what it was nor the impact of living with a narcissist. Without this life changing information I doubt I would be so willing to walk away from the poisonous behavior.

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    "This book relieved much of my shame"

    I was enlightened about the ploys of a narcissist. Having been in 3 relationships whom I would call narcissists, my self esteem was taken to a new low. The thorough explainations in this book put words to my feelings and released much of my guilt and shame that everything was my fault. I feel empowered to begin a new and rewarding life with the help of my counselor.

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    "painfully redundant, little substance"

    After trying to listen to this book, I'm shocked that it had such great reviews. This book is painfully redundant and doesn't have much substance . Here, let me save you a couple of hours of your life, here's the basic premise: if someone is abusive to you, verbally or physically, get out of the relationship and have no contact with that person. End of story. Then the book spends excessive time on the millions of ways you can provide yourself with self-care from essential oils to massage to watching a good movie. This entire book could have been summarized in less than 30 minutes. In fact, I've seen magazine articles that were more complete and full of information than this book.

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    "Good info but annoying delivery"

    It's really difficult to listen to because of the narrators vocal frying and/or exaggerated pronunciations. Such great information. Depending on my mood, I just dread hitting play.

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    Would you consider the audio edition of Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare to be better than the print version?

    I consider this version equally as useful as the written book, because when recovering from narcissistic abuse, your memory is sometimes compromised with CPTSD or PTSD. I have the written book & the audio version & can look something up in the book if triggered, & then sit back & listen to the audible version of that reference, & find that I absorb it more.


    What other book might you compare Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare to and why?

    I can't compare it to other books I've read, as it covers every dynamic of narcissistic abuse, some other books are specific to a Mother, Father, Sibling, partner, or friends & colleague abuse situations individually, this book covers all 6 of these dynamics in one.


    What does Julie McKay bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    I connected well with Julie McKay as the narrator, she has a voice that I find very easy to listen too, as she has a very calming voice, and I would definitely be more than happy to listen to her narrating other audiobooks.


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    The main thing I will remember, is that being abused is never the victims fault, & that all those recovering from narcissistic abuse of any form, must remember to practice self care, on themselves, it is something we very easily forget to do, having never been put first before, we owe it to ourselves.


    Any additional comments?

    I highly recommend this audio version of this brilliant book, It would also be very good for anyone with mild or severe dyslexia, or any kind of eyesight impediment.

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    Jo 01-29-17
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    "Get your life back"

    Both a practical and helpful guide. An extremely worthwhile read for all those who are dealing with a Narcissist.

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    Penelope 07-10-17
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    "Helpful information"

    Helpful information, but, do not recommend the audio version because each website and scientific reference is tediously spelled out. I suggest leaving the //http info out in audio

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    "Excellent, most helpful book I have read."

    Loved it, most valuable perspective on toxic relationships, toxic people and how to not do it again.

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    "fantastic book! one of the best in this field!"

    fantastic book. anyone who has suffered an abusive relationship, any counsellor, a therapist anyone who works with people should read this book.

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