Silently Seduced, Revised & Updated

When Parents Make Their Children Partners

By: Kenneth Adams

Narrated by: Craig Jessen

Length: 4 hrs and 33 mins

Publisher's summary

When a parent singles out a child for special privileges and attention, that child is often unaware that the relationship is unhealthy - even incestuous. As adults, these children struggle to feel validated, because while they have not been directly abused, they feel a sense of violation and crossed boundaries - usually done in the name of 'love' and 'caring'. The parent's love feels more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more intrusive than nurturing. Yet these children suffer from what psychologist Kenneth Adams calls The Silent Seduction - because there is nothing loving or caring about a close parent-child relationship that services the needs of the parent rather than the child.

In this revised and updated 20th anniversary edition of his groundbreaking book Silently Seduced, Dr. Adams explains how 'feeling close', especially with the opposite-sex parent, is not the source of comfort the image suggests, especially when that child is cheated out of a childhood by being a parent's surrogate partner. He offers a framework to understand this covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships, and how victims can begin the process of recovery.

©2011 Kenneth M. Adams (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

excellent

clear, understandable, thorough and straight to the point of this specific subject. 10 / 10

Fairly good

I could have done without the word "Daddy" being repeated in a childlike voice over and over. However, it validates much of what an unhealthy emotional relationship can do to one's behaviour and thought patterns.

Great book on a delicate subject.

Honestly the narrator made it slightly creepy, but that's my own personal preference. The book is expertly written and helps the reader understand why they or their spouse acts a certain way and gives steps on how to move forward. It's a difficult subject and healing process, but this book definitely helps.

Surprisingly good

A surprisingly well-written and well-narrated book. I wouldn't have made it through a book on this topic otherwise.

Excellent Resource

I’m a licensed professional counselor. I find this to be an excellent resource for other professionals or as a resource for anyone who wishes to learn more about their own lives and hearts, and move toward a path of healing.

Painful & Healing

I am dealing with separation from a parent only in my late 40s. It has caused havoc in my life, but now I’m on the road to recovery, thanks in part to this book.

Loved it

This book shed a lot of light into my life growing up. It resonated with me and validated me ........

Finally, so glad to find this book!

I have long struggled with intimacy issue and have spent a lot of time in therapy and read numerous books. This book nails my experience and my struggles. Extremely helpful. Highly recommended.

Changed my life

This book help me make sense of why I’ve been in the same relationship but with different faces.

Informative

Very good book about emotional incest. I’m a therapist and recommend this to all of my clients.