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Perfect Daughters

By: Robert Ackerman
Narrated by: Rebecca Rogers, Winter Grayden
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Publisher's summary

This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women.

When this groundbreaking book first appeared over 10 years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics - "perfect daughters" - operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of 12 hundred perfect daughters, offering listeners an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow.

This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for everyone who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new listeners and every therapist who confronts these issues.

Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.

©1989, 2002 Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D. (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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Good information

Would you listen to Perfect Daughters again? Why?

I listened to this material for some background on my inner child issues and to check out how I might have Been effected and in what ways. This is a phychology/self-help book so it's good reference and background information

What did you like best about this story?

This book had letters from daughters who we're the eldest or only and how they we're effected. The author gave the strengths abd weaknesses of each type of Adult Daughter which was new info to me.

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There's no favorite scene

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

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Any additional comments?

Be prepared for the book to be informative, slow moving, and very thought provoking. You will come away with some very useful and helpful tips to use in your healing journey

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Very Informative

It was very Informative and leaves you with a sense of hope. This book is great if you're just beginning your search self discovery.

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painful to listen to but good information

If you are the daughter of an alcoholic this is a great book to put into perspective the things youe went through as a child. It's not really a how to recover book so much as sharing of people stories and recognizing that so many of us daughters have had a tough go of it because of our alcoholic parent(s).

At the end of the day we're all responsible for own recovery but it is nice to know you're not alone.

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Great content, dramatic performance

I thought the book was good, useful, and well organized. The reader was a bit dramatic in his delivery. Since the topic is already so dramatic in the lives of DOAs, a less dramatic performance would have made it easier to listen to. Additionally, the parts written by women survivors would be better read in a woman’s voice.

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Great

loved it! I've doy got my answers and map of solutions! Thank your so much

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it was recommended read a lot didn't apply for me.

was a good book but a lot does not apply , I found portions of the book very good

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Excellent book. Narration is not so great.

The text itself is excellent. Given that the book is about daughters, it would have been better to have had an engaging, female narrator as opposed to the robotic, droning male narrator.

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Powerful

A well written, insightful book. Also well researched, and told with kindness.
I expect to listen to it many times.

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A step towards recovery

If you're an adult daughter, this book is a huge step towards recovery. This book has helped me learn so much about myself. Finally, someone has made sense of my thoughts and feelings.

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Great book - terrible narration

Loved the message and the writing but OH MY GOODNESS who picked the narrator? His voice makes you want to fall sleep, and why does he do a "woman's" voice for all the quotes he reads?? Still an amazing book, definitely buy it, just be sure to read it after a cup of coffee!

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