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Publisher's Summary

This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women.

When this groundbreaking book first appeared over 10 years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics - "perfect daughters" - operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of 12 hundred perfect daughters, offering listeners an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow.

This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for everyone who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new listeners and every therapist who confronts these issues.

Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.

©1989, 2002 Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D. (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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I am a Daughter of an Alcoholic. No longer trying to be Perfect.

Excellent book. Helped me process a lot of painful past life experiences that no one in my family at this time, is able to discuss openly. Not easy to listen, but I found it necessary to face it, so I can move forward.

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Powerful

A well written, insightful book. Also well researched, and told with kindness.
I expect to listen to it many times.

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Just saved me

This book is the parents that we could not have.
The language and the topics are not like the ones we are used to hear about. This book has a power truth about women in general who had a not standard family.
I m so thank Full , I have so much gratetude for being a woman that had the chance to read it.
For everyone that is envolved on this I just can say God bless you and thank you.

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A Real eye opener

This book pointed out things I do and never new why. I got extremely angry at myself. In the end I'm thankful for the slap in the face that I so needed!! Thank you!!

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Good Content

the narrator is a little dull to listen to but content is great! I recommend it to anyone of Alcoholic parents. the second half of the book is where he discusses all the solutions and resolutions described through out the first half.

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A step towards recovery

If you're an adult daughter, this book is a huge step towards recovery. This book has helped me learn so much about myself. Finally, someone has made sense of my thoughts and feelings.

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Great book - terrible narration

Loved the message and the writing but OH MY GOODNESS who picked the narrator? His voice makes you want to fall sleep, and why does he do a "woman's" voice for all the quotes he reads?? Still an amazing book, definitely buy it, just be sure to read it after a cup of coffee!

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it was recommended read a lot didn't apply for me.

was a good book but a lot does not apply , I found portions of the book very good

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awesome

this is a great book. i learned so much. it gave me great insight. thanks.

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WOW!!

Such an amazing book, really helped me understand a lot of my "quirks" as I call them, and has led me to the conclusion to seek additional help. I never even knew about the life long affects of being a child/daughter of an alcoholic until I listened to this book at the recommendation of a friend. Truly life-changing!!

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  • M. Tomat
  • 04-13-13

The Perfect Daughters

This book hurts... it makes you think and work on yourself. Be prepared! Never a book opened so much my mind to who I am, where I came from and expecially where I want to go in Life and what kind of a person I want to become.

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  • Bernie
  • 08-01-17

Well worth the time listening

Really good book, so accurate and real. Wish I had read it years ago. Excellent

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  • chris
  • 06-27-15

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Book content fantastic but narration terrible, so slow, monotone and eerie, had to turn off and come back voice so annoying!

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