Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.
This book had the most information about psychological abuse than any other book that I’ve found. The author, Shannon Thomas, really does understand the devastating effects of psychological abuse. She seems to be one of the few counselors who can see through the masks that abusers put on for public display. She takes the time to describe how psychological abuse effects people, defines the various psychological conditions of abusers, and (most importantly) gave steps to help recover that are easy to understand.
On a personal note (as someone who grew up in a psychologically abusive home with a narcissistic mother and sociopathic father), I found myself wanting to shout out, “Yes… that’s exactly how I felt/feel, what my parents did/do, etc.!” I’ve been on my own journey to recovery for some time but am still bothered by the effects of gaslighting and the smear campaigns. It’s unimaginable that parents can be so cruel and self-absorbed that they would purposely hurt their own children but it happened to me and almost cost me my life.
There is a part of me that wishes that I could get other loved ones to read this book so that they can gain insight into what I’ve been through and why I’ve reacted the many ways that I have in the past but I quit trying to get others to understand and focused my efforts on my own recovery. I am going to keep this book in my arsenal so that, if I begin to forget why I need to protect myself, I can reread and remember that I’m fighting for my life!
41 of 41 people found this review helpful
Where does Healing from Hidden Abuse rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?
This is the best and last book I will ever need. At age 65 I am finally at peace with my past. Both the author and reader are so compassionate (the information and presentation) I listened to this book 3 times.
I'm sure there are "professionals" who would dispute some of her approach to healing the pain of past abuse but this is the end of a long search for me. I plan to share this book with my four sisters. It is better late than never.
What about Wendy Tremont King’s performance did you like?
She has a comforting voice.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
No, it's one you need to take in slowly.
Any additional comments?
For anyone suffering from the abuse of a narcissist, past or in your present life, I hope you find this book as helpful as it was for me.
20 of 20 people found this review helpful
I will be listening to this book again! It's amazing!
I have never felt so connected to a stranger. It's like she was in my head and writing the book specifically for me and to answer all of the questions I have asked myself about why I dealt my the abuse for so long.
The person reading this book has got the most compassionate voice and it truly helped to get the content of the book across so much.
I pray Shannon Thomas writes more books. She is an incredibly talented woman who has a real skill for getting her point across in writing.
19 of 20 people found this review helpful
the subject matter was covered as thoroughly as possible within this user-friendly format. The narrator did an excellent job. I must compliment her on her manner of speaking. I've read much information on this subject over the years and found this book to be the perfect compilation of the various studies and helpful books on the matter of real life psychological abuse. She gets it. I found it to be very concise and easy to absorb. her advice and instruction on how to deal with abuse was direct and to the point and will be easy for anyone serious about freeing them self from psychological abuse to implement in real life situations. Hope to see more books like this in the future.
6 of 6 people found this review helpful
This book is well written and I like the fact that the author not only knows what she’s talking about but unfortunately, she has lived through and survived one of the horrible experiences she writes about. Her empathy for others is felt throughout the entire book.
I believe she poured her heart and knowledge into writing this book and honestly it’s a God-send. This is the first book I’ve read on this subject that addresses how there are in fact people in church that are narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths.
Ms. Thomas outlines steps to healing that are definitely doable. She also addresses the fact that sometimes people do feel the sadness of what they’ve experienced. It’s not written in a hey-just-read-my-book and you’ll instantly live happily-ever-after fashion. Also, she lists key points that let you know when you’ve “achieved” certain steps.
I really liked Ms. King as narrator. She has a warm and comforting voice and reminded me of a caring aunt or sincere friend. She didn’t rush through the words and really communicated the authors mood and inflections.
I hope everyone enjoys this book as much as I have. I’m planning a re-read soon!
4 of 4 people found this review helpful
This book will explain and show you what you need to do to become a new person. Undo the damage I am in restoration and each day I wake up now smiling energetic positive. You will see for yourself it is worth the time!
7 of 8 people found this review helpful
I usually give one star more to the books in my reviews, so just to make it "right."
If I could give six starts to this book, I would. This book provides the best ideas on how to get help to deal w. toxic people. And it explains why you shouldn't feel guilty doing it. The only thing left to do is to just follow the author's suggestions.
2 of 2 people found this review helpful
This book is very well written and is very pleasant to listen to. It cover all the steps people go through after or during been in a relationship of psychological abuse. The steps people go through to heal. It cover also the techniques abuser use to keep abusing. The book doesn't only cover abuse in romantic relationships but also other circumstances where it can occur.
2 of 2 people found this review helpful
This is a must read. Very well written. Amazing and easy to understand information. Author knows her subject.
4 of 5 people found this review helpful
There are tons of books about emotional abuse but very few that address the aftermath. I found this book to be a good self reflection with the facts.
1 of 1 people found this review helpful
I can't thank you enough for this blessing book! I'm sure that all the survivors going to say the same!
Gave me answers, helpful, positive, very interesting, great read. Highly recommended. Thank you Shannon Thomas.