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Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory - the most advanced relationship science in existence today - can help us find and sustain love.

Attachment theory forms the basis for many best-selling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships - until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes.

In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: "anxious" people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. "Avoidant" people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. "Secure" people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers a wealth of advice on how to navigate relationships more wisely, given a listener's attachment style and that of his or her partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

©2010 Amir Levine, M.D., Rachel Heller, M.A. (P)2010 Gildan Media Corp

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A grea great place to begin understanding your relationship

Wonderful paradigm for understanding attachment in adult relationships. Doesn't account for all the strange variability in human dynamics, but it's a great framework.

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I realized something!

After listening to this book I finally realized that my partner and I were completely opposite attachment types and neither of us were going to change. I had some decisions to make. This book is very clear and easy to follow.

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Great book

I really enjoyed a deeper understanding in attachment. This really was an eye opener and helpful.

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  • Marshall
  • AZLE, TX, United States
  • 09-06-17

Brilliant

Extremely insightful. Once I started listening I couldn't stop. Learned a lot about my attachment style as well as my partners. Highly recommend for anybody struggling in a relationship.

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literally changing my life as I read it....

It is very insightful and has you captivated as you are realizing what it is teaching you is relating to every relationship you have ever had. Very powerful book im definitely reading it again..

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  • Paul
  • Seattle, WA
  • 08-24-17

Simplistic, biased, and, frankly, offensive

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

Nothing about this book would make it a positive experience. This is an unethical misapplication of psychological science.

What was most disappointing about Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller ’s story?

The authors presented simplistic material on attachment that people can read in any Intro to Psych or Personality Psych textbook. Much of the book was material borrowed from questionnaires that are freely available online. The authors were also extremely biased, creating the impression that anxious attachment is wonderful and easy to fix by showering the anxious person with love, whereas people with avoidant attachment are horrible and to be avoided (no pun here) by everyone at all cost. This is rudely dismissive to 25% of the population. There were intellectual problems with this book, also, as the authors repeatedly claimed that attachment styles are malleable or plastic, yet their advice was largely based on "love the anxious, avoid the avoidant." Extremely disappointing.

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What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Disgust with the disingenuous hidden agenda of the authors. Either these authors are desperately anxiously attached people who are verbally pleasuring themselves by glorifying anxious attachment and dissing avoidant people, or they are shrewd manipulators who know that anxious people are likely to purchase relationship advice books, so they are peddling to them in manipulative ways.

Any additional comments?

Do not spend money on this book. You are better off reading a chapter on attachment in any psychology book at your library.

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Excellent book on relationships

This is an insightful and engaging book about romantic relationships. Its perspective will help you understand yourself and improve your relationships with others. "Quiz" and "Homework" parts would play out better in a print book, an you probably have to advance past them. But this book is packed with great insight, especially for anyone seeking to have more fulfilling relationships.

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Loved it

Life changing book for me. I plan on listening to it again. Great book for sure!

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Life Changing

This book was recommended to me by my therapist. I found it to be incredibly insightful and empowering. I will definitely refer back to it many times to aid me in initiating and maintaining healthy relationships.

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Excellent but...

Great book. Essential content to life love and relating. Well written-clear, concise, great narration. But why in the hell is there not one non-heteronormative example? Its 2017 people, lets get inclusive.