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Messy Grace Audiobook

Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction

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Publisher's Summary

Caleb Kalenbach is the Lead Pastor at Discovery Church in Simi Valley, CA. Raised in the LGBT community, he was exposed to how some Christians treated the LGBT community, and grew to hate Christians. In high school, he joined a Bible study to disprove the Bible, but ended up following Jesus instead. Later, his parents followed Jesus, too. This is the subject of his first book, Messy Grace - holding on to the truth of God's Word while being filled with grace.

Caleb is a graduate of Ozark Christian College, Talbot School of Theology (Biola University), and is finishing his doctorate at Dallas Theological Seminary. He speaks widely on the subjects of reconciliation, faith, diversity, and grace/truth. Caleb and his wife, Amy, reside in Southern California with their two kids.

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    Laura Evans 11-04-16
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    "For such a time as this"

    I am so grateful to Caleb for writing this book. I have been wrestling with how to make sense of these issues and this book has been a tremendous help to me. It has dispelled my fearfulness of what I didn't understand, and has encouraged within me a God-given love for the precious souls who identify as LGBTQ. Thank you Pastor Kaltenbach!

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    Caprice 08-17-16
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    "A desperately needed message"

    For anyone struggling with the Christian /LGBT issue, this is a must-read. The author has lived in both worlds and so brings a unique, loving, and honest perspective teaching us how to live in the tension of grace and truth.

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    S. Streiff-process Milwaukee WI 07-19-16
    S. Streiff-process Milwaukee WI 07-19-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Helpful-ish"

    My church recently made a public stand about homosexuality. The Lead Pastor was asked to resign as he held beliefs that were more accepting in the way that he interpreted the Bible. This book was recommended to me to help me reconcile biblical truth with my desire to love other people radically. There are many insightful perspectives discussed in this book. It is worth the time spent to read it. It did not help me to clarify all of my questions on this issue as related to Christianity, but it has perhaps given me a bit more insight.

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    Tonya Sissel Tucson, Arizona United States 05-24-16
    Tonya Sissel Tucson, Arizona United States 05-24-16 Member Since 2017
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    "Not just for LGBT topics"

    The message of loving as Jesus loves by combining grace AND truth applies to every area of a Christian's life. This book is about so much more that loving the LGBT community and every Christian should not only read this book but also put it into practice. Thank you Caleb and his family.

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    Weber 05-04-16
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    "A book on how Christians can be more like Christ"

    Being a Christian and believing homosexuality is a sin doesn't mean we must shun the LGBT. This book offers real insight into how to respect those who do identify as LGBT, speak to them with both love and truth, and to accept the person, not the sin.
    I think every Christian needs to read/listen to this book, even if they don't 100% agree with the author 100% of the time.

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    K. Jones Tulsa, OK USA 04-16-16
    K. Jones Tulsa, OK USA 04-16-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Identity in Christ"

    "Some will switch their primary identity from their same sex attractions to a disciple of Christ."

    That line spoke to me. This book does a good job of articulating what can be extremely disheartening in the Church today with how it by and large cannot communicate with people who are not like them. I will never know the struggle of being judged by my appearance or how I talk because those do not give me away as gay, but I do know how it feels to be judged by my sexual orientation and nothing else.

    As Caleb says, you won't agree with everything he says, but he's not telling you what to think. He's sharing his story as well as his convictions of what he reads in the Bible that praises healthy sexual expression, and condemns sexual expression that does not seem to honor God.

    I'm still wrestling with what it means to be a "Gay Christian", and all the questions that come with that identity. I am thankful that my primary identity is as a disciple/child of God, and I pray He uses my life to bring all sorts of people together, all for the glory of the LORD.

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    Frank Nichols Norman, OK 11-21-15
    Frank Nichols Norman, OK 11-21-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Challenging Profound Real"

    Messy Grace is a book that Christians have needed for a long time! Caleb comes from a place of personal transformation but is able to make the issue of how Christians should treat the LGBT community bigger than that one issue! It comes down to how should Christians treat anyone different than them! A profound take on a controversial issue! This book is guaranteed to make you disagree with the author regardless of which side of the argument you come from!

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    Kari 09-18-17
    Kari 09-18-17 Member Since 2017
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    "The book has many applications"

    I originally read this book because a dear person came out to me and I was seeking a balanced way to respond to them. However, the idea that we live between grace and absolute truth, and that that place is full of tension, has helped me in many applications with different lifestyles, sin, and hurt. Very well written and voiced, as well.

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    TriKen 08-07-17
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    "Balance truth and grace"

    This book really hits home for someone who is a Christian and has homosexual friends. The struggle of truth and grace and ministering to those around us can be challenging. I really like how this book unwraps these issues and puts some real challenging thoughts on the subject. I recommend this book for anyone who wants to get a unique perspective of a Christian who has a heart for ministry to homosexuals. I didn't agree with everything in this book and some things I'm still trying to resolve but overall I recommend this book.

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    Sheila Westerholm Smith 04-17-17
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    "Good to hear"

    Glad to hear his perspective. .Some enlightening and interesting points. it was worth my time.

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