• Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition

  • When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
  • By: John Townsend, Henry Cloud
  • Narrated by: Henry O. Arnold
  • Length: 11 hrs and 18 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (7,312 ratings)

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Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition

By: John Townsend, Henry Cloud
Narrated by: Henry O. Arnold
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Boundaries is the book that's helped more than four million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times best seller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
  • What are legitimate boundaries?
  • How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
  • How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
  • Aren’t boundaries selfish?

You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out the Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2008 Henry Cloud (P)2017 Zondervan

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WOW! A must read.

This book was recommended by several friends. And now I know why! As a people pleaser, it has helped open my eyes and create boundaries so I can have healthy relationships. As some of us were raised in broken homes where boundaries were not taught, this is a HUGE help to guide us and teach us about those healthy boundaries not only for ourselves but for those around us. I highly recommend!

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Essential for effective relationships

Enjoyed Boundaries and highly recommend. I learned a great deal about myself and how to be a better person, husband, father and leader.

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One of the best

God has been taking me on a journey of setting healthy boundaries. I’m glad to have found this book and put words to what I have been experiencing.

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Practical advice!

My counselor recommended this book, but I was reluctant to listen. To be frank, I didn’t want the religious instruction. However, the basic human principles rest within us all. Dr. Cloud shares many real world examples and I found his practical advice extremely valuable. His insights on key relationships teach the importance of healthy boundaries in many areas of life. Thank you, Dr. Cloud.

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Life Altering!

So glad to have been recommended this book. I have also purchased Boundaries with Kids and the corresponding workbook. It is changing our family interactions, making our kids more responsible and helping them learn strong moral values which we pray they will carry for the rest of their lives. Thankful to the Lord for inspiring these books on boundaries!

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This was an excellent book for anyone...

This book teaches you how to establish healthy boundaries but also why it's important for you to develop them. You'll also learn the how and why it's important to respect the boundaries of others and not get offended. It provides real life examples and step by step guides with reasonings.
I recommend this book to everyone. It will help you understand yourself as well as others much better.
Excellent read, I'm reading the Marriage one next!

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A must read for everyone

Wow! I feel like if everyone were to read this book and take it seriously, and make the changes needed, it would make the world function. What a great guide to dealing with the most difficult relationships and also dealing with your own individual biggest problems

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Such a needed book,

Such an eye opening, helpful book,. I learned quite a bit and will apply what I have learned to my life.. buying it for those I love as well..

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Eye opener!

I absolutely love that it reference the Bible & how God sets boundaries for us. I love that it gives examples & how to over come it.

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A transformative work

I wish I listened to this years ago. I am incredibly thankful for having gotten ahold of it when I did.

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