Most partners are not trying to hurt each other.

But here’s the truth:

Good intent does not cancel out harmful impact.

Join me as we unpack what is going on and how best to explain, unpack and move forward from this sticky place.

This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.

Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships and has various online courses and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.

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Together we explore how an understanding of neuroscience can inform us to get smarter in relationships particularly in terms of the stories we tell ourselves.

We explore:

-how attachment experiences in childhood shape adult relationships

-how attunement and reciprocity as key factors in attachment

-the characteristics of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles, highlighting how early experiences shape these patterns

-how maintaining curiosity has a real benefit especially in relationships

-the potential dangers of overconfidence in one's thinking.

-the importance of self-awareness and metacognition in understanding and improving self-esteem

-the functions of three brain networks: the Executive Network, the Default Mode Network and Salience Network

-and finally Diane gives us tips on how to manage negative thought patterns

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This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.

Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships and has various online courses and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me and my guest Heid Louise as we discuss her book The Love Blueprint.

You can find out more about Heid here, and get a copy of her book here, or on audio here.

Heidi is a Brisbane based Psychotherapist who works from a holistic and trauma informed framework. She is an experienced and qualified Psychotherapist, an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker (AMHSW), a Lvl 3 Gottman Couples therapist and a Lvl 2 (IFS) Internal Family Systems Therapist

In our chat we focused on understanding Love Blueprints which is the theme of Heidi's new book. we discuss;

• the various therapeutic approaches including IFS, Gottman, and Polyvagal theory to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding relationship patterns and personal development
• the concept of the "Love Blueprint," which refers to our early experiences and how they shape our understanding of love and relationships
• the challenges couples face when their love blueprints and coping strategies clash, highlighting the role of therapy in providing gentle guidance and support.
• the importance of understanding and compassion in relationships
• the concept of triggers as flag posts for deeper healing and understanding in relationships
• how joy can be challenging for individuals due to past experiences
• And finally, Heidi's definition of secure love which is, after all, what we all are truly craving in relationship

Enjoy

This podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.

Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships and has various online courses and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.