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Publisher's Summary

This program is read by the author.

A fearless debut audiobook memoir in which beloved and best-selling How to Raise an Adult author Julie Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches in her recollections of growing up a biracial black woman in America.

Bringing a poetic sensibility to her prose to stunning effect, Lythcott-Haims briskly and stirringly evokes her personal battle with the low self-esteem that American racism routinely inflicts on people of color. The only child of a marriage between an African-American father and a white British mother, she shows indelibly how so-called "micro" aggressions in addition to blunt force insults can puncture a person's inner life with a thousand sharp cuts. Real American expresses, also, through Lythcott-Haims' path to self-acceptance, the healing power of community in overcoming the hurtful isolation of being incessantly considered "the other".

The author of the New York Times best-selling anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, Lythcott-Haims offers listeners a different kind of story this time out but one that will nevertheless resonate with the legions of students, educators, and parents to whom she is now well known, by whom she is beloved, and to whom she has always provided wise and necessary counsel about how to embrace and nurture their best selves. Real American is an affecting memoir, an unforgettable cri de coeur, and a clarion call to all of us to live more wisely, generously and fully.

©2017 Julie Lythcott-Haims (P)2017 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"Courageous, achingly honest." (Michelle Alexander, New York Times best-selling author of The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness)
"A compelling, incisive, and thoughtful examination of race, origin, and what it means to be called an American. Engaging, heartfelt, and beautifully written, Lythcott-Haims explores the American spectrum of identity with refreshing courage and compassion." (Bryan Stevenson, New York Times best-selling author of Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption)

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Must read

Lythcott-Haims really opened my eyes and heart to the essential meaning of “Black Lives Matter,”. This should be required reading for all Americans, especially white - like me. As a hospice volunteer I also thought her writing about end-of -life at the end of the book was among the most beautiful I have read.
Ms Lythcott-Haims Thank you for writing and reading your story.

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Should be on the reading list for every high school student.

A compelling story about what it means to grow up as a minority in the United States. Any thinking person who does not understand what it means to be a minority in our country would benefit from being educated by this book.

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Insightful

Great memoir that gets at the heart of the challenges we have with inclusion in this country.

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Bravo!

This was a deep dive into the emotional insecurities of a black woman born out of place. Surrounded by people who didn't look like her or understand her but carrying around her neck the yolk of the inhuman treatment that we people of color have known since slavery. In this, I see her come out the other side finally knowing beyond a shadow of doubt, she is black and proud even with all the baggage and future fights destined to come. She reminds me of my 16 year old daughter, born from a Nigerian mother and me, a black man born in Macon, GA. I too can track my ancestors into the depths of slavery: From a slave plantation in Haddock, Georgia to me, the famly's first Doctor. And now I see my daughter who, unlike me, is raised in a neighborhood filled with nationalities and races different from hers. She is overflowing with talent and with a brilliant mind but not entirely sure where she fits in. Yes, she is in Jack and Jill. But even with the advantage of two black parents, she struggles to relate at times to many of the shades of blackness she is now exposed to. She is finally coming into her own. I see her finally claiming her space in our diaspora and I am both proud and afraid. Man, I feel this book! I brought my daughter a copy. I know she will feel it too. Bravo.

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great book

excellent portrait of the complexity of living while biracial, and also provides the historical and political context.

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Silvi would be proud.!!! awareness,love& tears

This book hooked me in from page one and living with racism daily and having with mountains I climb and valleys I swim.. perfectly put.

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A beautiful truth

This book is not just about one theme, it's so life stricken it's amazing. Being black, feeling vulnerable, being honest about moments of insecurity, relationships with Family... it's all so beautiful. This book stands as a monument to all that plagues society and really helps me see how universal some themes are. It's truly awesome

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Powerful must read

The rawness you hear as Julie is reading her experience of being a biracial woman growing up in the United States, of being a mother to two biracial children, and a woman in a biracial relationship is palpable and searing. Every white American who is able to truly open their hearts and ears to listen would never be able to turn a blind eye to racism, systemic oppression, and white supremacy again.

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Black lives do matter, as do others.

I wanted to like this book and started to from time to time, but there was just a little too much poor me coming from an upper class Harvard girl, even if she considers herself black. There is no doubt that racism is an issue in the US today. We all loose because of judging each other by the most ridiculous of all characteristics - color. That is what I hoped to read about and get a new slant on how to overcome the degrading and stifling effects it has on our culture as a whole. I get how terrible it is for this author and it is a shame. I just needed something with a bit more hope in it.

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This should be mandatory reading for every American!

I devoured every bit of this book! When stories like these are shared with ALL Americans, we will see change happen. It’s a book that will change your perspective, open your heart and move you to your core.